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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #15 on: January 29, 2020, 04:27:13 am »
You rearranged and accepted an invitation for a Saturday. The new invitation doesn't work for you. You are not rude for declining the second invitation since they are the ones who changed the parameters. I not convinced they are rude, perhaps inconsiderate is a better word in this case. However, I think there's a good chance the mom is going to be disappointed by all the cancellations that are made just because she changed the date to accommodate 1 person. A good chunk of people who work will be working and there's a high probability that they will be unable to get off work now.
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #16 on: January 29, 2020, 11:03:38 am »
are they doing it during the day on Friday? I guess I just assumed they'd moved it to Friday evening.
Since it's not a "school night," I assumed they thought it would have a reasonable chance to find people free.

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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #17 on: January 29, 2020, 12:23:02 pm »
I think this is the occasion for "oh, what a shame you didn't give more notice; it's too late for me to reschedule all my plans again, so I'll have to reluctantly decline".

Sending a small gift whilst not twisting your schedule into a pretzel to attend seems a nice compromise, so I think you'd not be rude at all, and positively be gracious by sending your present not your presence. ;)
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #18 on: January 31, 2020, 10:42:21 pm »
I think there needs to be a good reason for changing a party date after most guests have already RSVP'ed. And it's definitely not rude to change your RSVP to "no" if you can't make the new date!

I'm also curious to know if the couple are hosting the 'sprinkle' themselves. If so, that seems a little tacky.

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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #19 on: February 01, 2020, 04:11:37 am »
I know it was a surprise to the mom-to-be, so I'm thinking that maybe it was the parents/her husband who hosted it.  Apparently, it went well.  I sent my gift along with someone who could make it, and I got a text at work saying that she loved the gift, so I guess I'm in the clear.  I don't know if anyone else couldn't make it because of the change or not, but all's well that ends well, I guess!
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #20 on: February 03, 2020, 07:43:59 pm »
We had theater tickets that had to be changed two days out from the play because one person of the other couple got a call from a medical specialist that due to a cancellation that person could have an appointment that would have made the theater time very tight. Otherwise, they would have had a week's wait. Even though it involved a few dollars inconvenience (moving from preview performance night to after opening night) I was not going to complain, health takes precedence and this was for an oncologist, so time could be of the essence.
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #21 on: February 05, 2020, 10:40:18 am »
In general it's obviously rude and inconsiderate to change the date of one's party at the last minute. But I don't think we can really pass judgement on the couple in this case, not knowing exactly what went down there. Somebody is being inconsiderate here, to be sure, but we don't know who. If one of the grandmas-to-be suddenly threw a spanner in the works saying 'I can't make Saturday after all! Change the date for my sake! You can't have this party without me!', they may well have felt unable to say 'Too bad, Mom, we can't change it now, you'll have to miss out'.


Having read a bunch of "toxic relatives"  forums then I can totally see some power struggles going on.

You responded to the invite next Sat.
They have now rescinded that invite and have set up a new party. It is now this Friday.
You are welcome to
1) Send your regrets
2) Send your regrets and still send your present
3) Attend.

I would choose based on :
1) How close are you to the showeree
2) How flaky/entitled they have been the past
3) How difficult it is to change your plans
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #22 on: February 05, 2020, 11:03:58 am »
We had theater tickets that had to be changed two days out from the play because one person of the other couple got a call from a medical specialist that due to a cancellation that person could have an appointment that would have made the theater time very tight. Otherwise, they would have had a week's wait. Even though it involved a few dollars inconvenience (moving from preview performance night to after opening night) I was not going to complain, health takes precedence and this was for an oncologist, so time could be of the essence.

Well, yes. Having a medical appointment is reason to cancel most plans, and when it's for an *oncologist* no one could complain.
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Re: They changed the party date
« Reply #23 on: February 05, 2020, 01:28:14 pm »
Make that "anyone with more sensitivity than a rhinoceros shouldn't complain" - I've still run into a very few people who really can't/don't see things from the other person's point of view without having their attention grabbed with a two by four or maybe a six by ten...
 
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