Author Topic: Uninvited houseguest - how to avoid (Read 2911 times)

Hanna · « **Reply #30 on:** July 01, 2019, 11:49:14 am »

Quote from: Rose Red on July 01, 2019, 11:45:24 am

It doesn't sound like Susan is going this time anyway since Mary says "Susan decided not to come."

When Mary shows up for this visit, tell her you won't be issuing invitations to Susan so please don't invite her in the future.

I think I’d flat ask “Mary, did you invite Susan to my house?”

Rose Red · « **Reply #31 on:** July 01, 2019, 12:04:59 pm »

Quote from: Hanna on July 01, 2019, 11:49:14 am

Quote from: Rose Red on July 01, 2019, 11:45:24 am
It doesn't sound like Susan is going this time anyway since Mary says "Susan decided not to come."

When Mary shows up for this visit, tell her you won't be issuing invitations to Susan so please don't invite her in the future.

I think I’d flat ask “Susan, did you invite Mary to my house?”

That's fine too but ask in a nice way at first. Mary is the OP's friend. A good enough friend to be invited to her home. She may be confused by the OP's answer to her inquiry about letting Susan know about the visit. Give her the benefit of the doubt that she was clueless and not overstepping. Perhaps Mary will be embarrassed and know better next time. Give her a chance to apologize.

Hanna · « **Reply #32 on:** July 01, 2019, 12:13:27 pm »

Quote from: Rose Red on July 01, 2019, 12:04:59 pm

Quote from: Hanna on July 01, 2019, 11:49:14 am
Quote from: Rose Red on July 01, 2019, 11:45:24 am
It doesn't sound like Susan is going this time anyway since Mary says "Susan decided not to come."

When Mary shows up for this visit, tell her you won't be issuing invitations to Susan so please don't invite her in the future.

I think I’d flat ask “Susan, did you invite Mary to my house?”

That's fine too but ask in a nice way at first. Mary is the OP's friend. A good enough friend to be invited to her home. She may be confused by the OP's answer to her inquiry about letting Susan know about the visit. Give her the benefit of the doubt that she was clueless and not overstepping. Perhaps Mary will be embarrassed and know better next time. Give her a chance to apologize.

Yes, agreed. I’d ask nicely.

bopper · « **Reply #33 on:** July 11, 2019, 03:29:02 pm »

I would say "Hey Mary, I was thinking about something you said...you said that "Susan said she couldn't come."...but I never invited Susan as i am not that close with her and I assume you would not invite her to my house..what is going on?"