I think you really need to say, "Ned, this is my area of expertise", or "Ned, pleased don't fart in my living room" or "Ned, please don't yell and swear". Your husband is a total wuss, because he puts of with this kind of bullshit! If my brothers treated my husband like that, I would tell them to go jump in a lake! You have so many problems with your husbands family, for so many years, I would personally run like the wind. Because your husband is a wuss, that does not have your back. He will sit there,silent, and let his POS brother abuse you. He sucks.