Author Topic: Taking too long to realize sympathy (not a solution) is wanted. (UPDATE #11)  (Read 2091 times)

Jem

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I think it depends on the relationship but I know with my husband and I we simply ask each other or tell each other what it is we are looking for in a particular situation.

For example:

Me: "The check engine light is on in my car. Are you able to take it to the shop today?"

vs.

Me: "I had an awful day at work today. I'm not looking for how you would have handled this situation, I just want to vent about it."

That way he doesn't have to guess what it is I am looking for. Or also:

Him: "My back is really hurting me."
Me: "Do you want some ideas to relieve the pain or do you want me to just be here with you?"

or

Him: "I was planning to mow the lawn today but cannot because my back hurts. Are you able to mow it for me?"
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