Bad Manners and Brimstone

I'm a fixer as well and I always have been. When I was much younger I drove away a friend who was in a toxic relationship. She constantly called me to complain about the latest thing her boyfriend had done, and I repeatedly kept trying to tell her that she needed to break up with him and that he wasn't worth it...which was true, but she eventually decided (after a breakup and reunion) that it was me she needed to break up with, because I "wasn't supportive of [her] relationship."  By the time I was older and going through the same situation with my new best friend, I knew enough to offer sympathy, she eventually arrived at the conclusion that her boyfriend was a hot dumpster fire in her own time, and our friendship is intact.