Bad Manners and Brimstone

When I worked retail (just a year before the pandemic) the honorific "Miss" was used before a first name toward those female of us who were upwards of a certain age. In other words .... toward the older women. Not the older men (there were a couple) or any of the younger people.

So, it may be a "respect toward your elders" type of thing. Like a school child in the US did when I was younger (not sure if they still do).

I was okay with it, since it indicated respect and they did not treat me with any age-related negative stereotypes. And if I had not been okay with it, I would have been comfortable addressing it with the people themselves or HR or Management.

Quote from: Codewoman1125 on April 08, 2021, 10:54:46 am

No good comes from criticizing parenting - ever. And I'm wondering if that man had ever had to deal with a screaming child.

We don't know when or why people do what they do and it is none of my business.

If you are waiting in line and are distressed by what someone else is doing you should get out of line.

It's not just about if someone causes distress to you, it's also about if you are causing distress to others.

We have to be considerate of others, others have to be considerate of us.

I disagree that others have to be considerate of us. Based on the fact that they so often are not considerate of us.

Semantics aside: I'm tempted to double down here, but I think I'll defer. I believe the man had a choice to deal with the issue by taking himself out of the situation. He had a choice. People may not like the look of my bright red shoes. The can look away.

If you go to the lunch, be prepared to fend off a request for money.

Whilst on crutches, I got in the habit of carrying my phone in my bra when going room to room. But would occasionally forget. Even had Mr. S call it so I could find it. And my boobs started to ring.

I was in a meeting with my boss when that happened!

I am managing affairs for my relative who has dementia and lives in a care home. The last time her son went to visit, he took her out to her bank and she withdrew a fairly large sum of money. Approximately 1/3 of the money never made it back to the care home with her. Guess who is no longer allowed to contact my relative? Nor is his son (her grandson) who suddenly decided he needed to visit grandma, after not having done so for several years.

Her son, naturally, has accused me of all sorts of terrible things in a very nasty way. I have cut off contact with him, as well. His favorite (non-profane) comment about me is that I am power hungry. Yes, I am doing all this work and worrying about your mom because I get a kick out of controlling everything about her.

I saw a meme today that said "The collective noun for 'Karen' is 'HoA' (home owners association)".

Or the people that claimed that they were allowed the discount or return by someone else recently that no one would be allowed to give. We had a man claim every single holiday season that our store had allowed him to buy bulk gift cards (like 100!) at a steep discount. And the same staff had been in the store for years and had never allowed it! 

Agree! This really resonates with me. On our walk today, I was telling my DH that 2020 brought out some interesting elements in people we thought we knew. There are some beliefs that have been adopted that are non-negotiables for me and I have no interest in having any kind of relationship with a few people. I'll be polite and cordial, but I'm not interested in anything beyond, "How about this weather?" He completely agreed and there are a few people we won't be doing business with anymore. (Unpopular opinion - "My lack of support for your endeavor isn't because I don't care about or value small business, I'm not supporting your small business because of all those beliefs you're freely sharing. I don't want to give you money.")

Maybe I'll extend my standards a bit and Marie Kondo my relationships and adjust any ones that don't bring me joy....

Evidently, the act of backing away from a friendship due to differences in opinion over pandemic safety has come to be known as "Fauci-ing" or "to Fauci".