Bad Manners and Brimstone

Where I live, the only place a hat must be removed - by everyone - is the Legion.

I wouldn't worry about wearing a hat indoors otherwise, even if it is a ball cap.  There are so many people who wear hats for medical reasons - cancer treatment, alopecia or oogyda's surgery example - that most people don't bat an eye.  If your hat matches your 'ensemble', you're fine.

Thanks...I'm in Toronto and it's not at a Legion so I think I'll be OK!! 

WARNING: some may find this squicky. It's not that graphic but wanted to warn people just in case!

I have some kind of weird bug bite that I had an allergic reaction to **in the middle of my forehead** (just my luck). It's healing nicely, but it's still a bit red and has a bug-bite-type scab.

This Saturday I'm going to "afternoon tea" with my Mom and my sister.

If my forehead isn't cleared up by Saturday can I wear a hat indoors at the restaurant? Are hats at restaurants considered rude?? (the hat is cute, it's not a baseball cap or something)

I don't think it'll be cleared up by then for concealer to hide it, but I'll probably try!

(if only bangs could be cut for a day and then grow back out...)

Thanks for the responses!

I usually always default to Ms. if I'm not sure of their preference; I think I was thrown off by a close friend who is married but goes by "Miss MaidenName."

Of course, then I started googling and learned that some people use "Mrs. MaidenName," which seems odd to me!

(Thanks for the Emily Post link, Hmmm, I couldn't for the life of me remember the name "Emily Post" yesterday when I was quickly trying to find a straight answer.)

I once wrote to someone and wasn't sure of their marital status, and they blasted me for using "Ms." even though they're married...which I had no way of knowing. People are interesting.

Quote from: LadyJaneinMD on April 08, 2021, 05:24:25 am

Back when I was new to the Smart Phone world (I was a late bloomer there), I was talking to my friend.  On the Smartphone.  While frantically searching my apartment for my smart phone.

I wear glasses. I can't tell you the number of times I've been frantically searching for my glasses and they've either been actually on my face or on top of my head. 🤷🤣

Whenever I can't find my sunglasses the first thing I do is put my hand on my head!

It sounds to me like DD#2 is worried about her friend's mom, and maybe wants to get your input.

Is DD#2 aware of the issues you had with Karen before?

I think you can go for lunch without committing to a close friendship. Sounds like you'll be on your guard anyway.

Quote from: Raintree on February 25, 2021, 01:20:58 am

Quote from: shadowfox79 on February 25, 2021, 01:04:44 am

Quote from: pjeans on February 23, 2021, 01:09:26 pm

I really hated when Karens used my name from my name tag. I think that was the signal to you that "I'll be able to name you when I report this to your manager." Glad I had a great manager who backed her staff.

This was the reason I hated wearing a nametag when I worked in a university. At award ceremonies we would have people come up, obnoxiously look at my nametag and say "Well, Shadow, perhaps you'd like to explain why my son has been queuing for his gown for twenty minutes?"

It's obviously a power play, because if I had replied "Well, Ricky, it's because he showed up twenty minutes late," there would have been hell to pay.

Yes, it's the way they use a name with emphasis. With snark in their voices. "Well, Raintree, I'd like a word with the manager." Which was fine with me, the manager wasn't going to get upset with me for enforcing store policy like no, I can't refund that item you opened, used, and lost the receipt for. The manager was more likely to enter the break room later and commiserate about that miserable, unreasonable, demanding customer.

The store I worked at had name tags for vendors, so while the Coca Cola vendor was there stocking the soda, they wore the store nametag with "Coke" on it.

One of my co-workers adopted the "Keebler" nametag. Even most store employees thought that was his real name!

There was also one employee who had been there for years who wore a nametag that said "New Employee" on it.

My husband and I recently started watching the show "Superstore" and the main character wears a different name on her nametag every day because she doesn't want customers to know her real name. (not sure if that's through the whole series, we only watched a couple of episodes)