Bad Manners and Brimstone

For me, it depends on the timeframe. Given that they had an extremely small event, I have no issues that they are planning their ceremony for the future. Part will depend on how long they go on with the pretense.

For example, my niece and husband did a civil ceremony to allow her to relocate with him to another country for work. They had already been living together for 3 years so really no difference in their daily lives. When they returned to the US a year later they had the BWW. (my sister would have been heartbroken if she hadn't been able to have one for her only daughter and his mom was pretty much the same).

Even 40 years ago, I had a highschool friend who was in the midst of planning her wedding for about 6 months in the future. But he got deployment orders and he wanted her to be his beneficiary while gone so they went ahead and got married but still considered themselves engaged. The planned wedding was pushed to 9 months out if I remember correctly, but I doubt only a few of us new about the prior civil ceremony.

My only times I'd look sideways at the BWW is when a couple has been living together for 10 years, have 4 kids together and then suddenly decide they want a BWW.

I've always known the guidance that couples do not sit next to each other. At most of the dinner parties we attend or host, that is the norm. We've occasionally hosted guests where a couple sat next to each other, but it is usually the younger ones. I do remember my daughter and son in low sitting next to each other the first few dinners he attended. At our supper club, we often end up with 2 tables and it used to be the wives pick a number and it indicates the table they'll be at the the husband goes to the other one. Now we all just end up naturally splitting up but sometimes we'll end up at the same table but never sitting together.

If we are at a larger social event like a wedding or large party, the couples are more likely to start sitting together but then will end up moving around the table or even to other tables.

I had read the letter and laughed because I thought it had to be a hoax. If the husband is so old fashioned that he needs to protect his wife by staying constantly by her side at social events, the first thing he would do is not expose her to such crass society.

I like Lowspark wording.

I would probably change the time to 2 to 5pm instead.  I've hosted a couple of co-ed showers and many of the guests, especially when there were visitors from out of town, went out to dinner or drinks after. I also just think that gives people to do their Saturday morning plans and then head home, dress and make to a 2pm event. 

Best wishes for your family!

Way to go Chigger! Happy New Year.

The only way we could get one of our cats to take a pill was to wait till she was asleep, sneak up and wrap a towel around her and hold her down while my husband quickly grab the head and held it up toward the ceiling and popped the pill in quickly. It was always about 30 sec of trauma for all of us and she was ticked off for a few hours. She was so bad about it that even the tech vets would always need to do the towel wrap. Hopefully it's not a daily pill.

Honestly, I would go with the flea collar as you'd only need to do the towel wrap thing once every 3 months to change the collar.

Well that would have been very annoying. I'm imaging something like individual nachos and she took all the guacamole. I guess if I caught it quick enough as she was scooping it all onto her plate I might have said "Oh, I didn't get in quac yet. Would you put some back?"