Bad Manners and Brimstone

I would make the stock in the pot you roasted wings and veggies in. That way you get the bits and pieces stuck to the bottom. And I'd probably loosen them first with a bit of wine before adding water. And I'd probably only remove the meat after making my stock.

On my drive to work I have a stretch with spotty signal. I try my best not to be on the phone when I am getting there. If I am on a chatty call, I'll suggest to end the call when entering that area. If it is a needed conversation I will propose to call back in ten minutes when I am back with better reception. Having to repeat everything multiple times sucks way too much.

I understand why you don't want to inflict this on yourself repeatedly. It's one thing if it's a one-off thing or because someone isn't aware they are entering an area with bad reception. But a repeat offender?

Quote from: oogyda on January 10, 2023, 10:22:56 am

Quote from: Hmmm on January 10, 2023, 09:41:13 am

Something like "we hope parents are able to stay and enjoy the fun. Drinks and food provided for everyone."

To me, that reads like Toots' "You don't need to stay if you don't want to."  When dealing with others, I've learned to be very specific.  People just won't take hints if it doesn't suit their needs.

As I indicated later in my post, I know there were some parents who have reasons that they can't stay and I wouldn't want them to feel there child couldn't attend and just saying "please stay" to me implies that the parent is required to remain at the party. However, saying that parents are encouraged to stay assured me that there was always sufficient supervision of the kids.

To me "we hope parents are able to stay and enjoy the fun" reads more like "stay if you want, leave if you don't want to stay". For many parents, a couple of child-free hours are a lot more fun than a child's birthday party. I think that if you want the parents who can stay to stay, you need a bit more explicit.

Quote from: QueenFaninCA on December 05, 2022, 01:40:48 pm

I get that maybe Dad assumed it was ready for everyone, but I also think it's worth a conversation to say, even if that had been the case, it wasn't his to share.

Wasn't the whole point of sharing it with him NOW in order for him to be able to share with his brother? So why isn't it his to share?

If you want to be protective of your photos (or information), you need to have a clear communications plan and stick to it. I work in (science) communication and I sometimes learn about things that are still embargoed. So I know that I can talk about it with my comms people as we develop a communications plan (possibly write a press release), but I know I can't tell anyone else.

He brings absolutely nothing to my life and I, personally, want to just block him. But... DH sees him a minimum of 2 and up to 4 times monthly and, because blocking is obvious, he will just bang on about being blocked and be generally insufferable.

So your DH rather have him be insufferable towards you than towards him? Sorry, DH, not happening. Block him. It's his friend, not yours. Perhaps give him one last chance to tell his friend to stop messaging you or you will block him.

If I have even mild salsa I have to immediately brush my teeth because it feels like my mouth is on fire.

Capsaicin is fat-soluble, not water-soluble. Try drinking a bit of whole milk or eating a few bites of buttered bread.

Definitely rude not to ask.

But there are food places like that where it is rude to block a table before actually having food. Years ago the cafeteria at the San Francisco Zoo was really bad: The fast food lane had lots of people and it would usually take them at least 20 minutes to get their food. But they had already a family member block a table. We usually got food from the other lane and often had to circle around for several minutes before getting a table while our food got cold while about a quarter of the tables were groups which did not yet have any food.

I filled out the forms at once and sent them back.  The big boss writes back "Thank you!  You were the first one!"

Weeks go by and everyone else is getting what they needed.  Except me.  Big Boss claims I never sent her the forms. 

I would have forwarded him his email.

Finally, I called her and said "Are you in your office?"

She said yes.  I said "Don't move" and drove across town with all the forms.  Then I stood over her while she scanned the request forms into her computer.  Finally (and thank God she has a sense of humor) I made her sign a statement saying she had received them on that date.

I probably would have forwarded the email to them every single time and at some point started cc:ing their boss.

Similarly, the office administrator cannot seem to keep track of email from my branch.  She needs a weekly form for one of our contracted employees. I've been taking weekly photos of the forms with my cell phone and emailing them from my phone address.  Administrator writes back to tell me she got it and thanks me. 

TODAY, she calls telling me she needs the weekly forms, where are they?  I re sent every last one.  All of a sudden, it's okay to fax them and she mouths off to my employees that I never sent the items.  Meanwhile, I am looking at all the emails of her commentary that she received them. 

Instead of sending the forms again, forward her the emails where she acknowledges that she received them.