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Life in General / Re: Sharing - not exactly what I (actually didn't) sign up for!
« on: October 24, 2024, 11:37:38 am »
That's pretty rude!

Next time, you'll know to establish if you are sharing or not BEFORE the server or the food arrives. I'd probably tell her, "I know you like to share but I want to eat all of the dishes I order tonight." And if you have the appetite and money for something extra, "Do you want to get something else to split?"

If this happens again, as soon as she takes all of anything, say "Excuse me, I'd like to try some of the ______ too" and reach a clean utensil over to her plate and take what you want. Don't give her a chance to start eating it! That might normally be a little rude but in this case, it's fair.


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Pets / Re: Has anyone any ideas about this?
« on: August 29, 2024, 10:04:50 am »
The best way we found to get our cat into the carrier was to put the carrier on end so the opening is at the top, and lower the cat into it.

I hope the vet has a solution for you.

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Life in General / Re: Bare Toes and other casual attire
« on: May 22, 2024, 12:18:08 pm »
Going to the doctor? It allows the doctor to spot potential problems (maybe the patient is unable to trim his nails, or maybe he has a nail fungus).

I'm positive the doctor has seen worse!

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The Work Day / Re: How do you deal with Upper Management . . .
« on: October 19, 2023, 05:00:34 pm »
She SAYS the project needs to be done ASAP, but she doesn't ACT like the project needs to be done ASAP. (Besides, ASAP is a BS deadline. As soon as possible. It's not possible for you to do work when you are done with work for the day.)

It sounds like you've trained her that you are always willing to stick around or check in to deal with her unreliable timelines. It's going to take some training to reverse that.

The first time she misses getting back to you in a timely manner, remind her when you sign off of work. "Since I'm off work at 1 pm, please email me the changes before you leave today and I'll get them done when I come in tomorrow." OR "Since I'm off work at 1 pm, I won't be able to meet with you after that time. What time tomorrow works for you?"

Then stick to that script. It's reasonable that you stop working when you are off work.

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Life in General / Re: Dealing with neighbor with no boundaries
« on: September 06, 2023, 04:36:01 pm »
Without reading the email, it's hard to determine if it is harsh. It seems like the "weeding neighbor" needs to hear in blunt language to stay out of your friend's yard. Something like this:

Hi Neighbor,

I am reminding you again to keep the children out of my yard. Please do not weed or enter my property for any other reason.

OPTIONAL ADDITIONS: "I truly prefer to deal with ALL yard work on my own." AND/OR "I can not risk any liability by having uninvited guests on my property."

Thank you for understanding.




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Holidays / Re: Secret Santa Round-Up: What did you receive and what did you give?
« on: December 20, 2022, 11:36:32 am »
My book club does a book exchange. Everyone brings a wrapped book: something they have read and liked, could be used. First person picks and unwraps, next person can steal or pick. Limit of 3 steals.

I was happy to have given the most-stolen book, Lessons in Chemistry: A Novel by Bonnie Garmus. (It's great, highly recommended!)

Edit to add: The person who ended up with the book already finished it, a week later! So she put it up for grabs for whoever else wanted to read it.  ;D

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Life in General / Re: Gift Ideas for Piano Teacher
« on: November 29, 2022, 12:27:04 pm »
You can also add a nice review on Google or Yelp (or NextDoor if he is in your area).

Copy the review and email it to him to let him know you posted it and that he can use it on his website or other marketing, if he does that sort of thing.

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Life in General / Re: How do I tip for this?
« on: July 28, 2022, 03:38:23 pm »
Food seems appropriate and would be appreciated. I'd make sure the food is something that will keep, so they might save some for people who aren't working or who can't take a break when it arrives.

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Gluten free ideas for celiac disease
« on: July 25, 2022, 11:30:30 am »
Ask the person or people with celiac disease. They may or may not be able to eat foods prepared around gluten-containing foods or in kitchens that also prepare gluten-containing foods. They may have preferred brands (since some gluten-free items are much better than others). Only they can tell you for sure what will be best for their health.

It wouldn't be nice for you or your guests if you go to extra trouble and they aren't able to eat anything anyway.

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Life in General / Re: should I place another order?
« on: July 25, 2022, 11:25:28 am »
You don't owe anyone anything. You gave an accurate survey; the store chose to give you a refund.

If you have plans to send flowers again AND you feel like using the same florist, you could do so. But you have absolutely no obligation.

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Life in General / Re: Parking lot etiquette…was I wrong?
« on: March 22, 2022, 05:03:54 pm »
Almost 5 minutes? Sorry, you didn't have a spot. If the people leaving were taking that long, you needed to drive on so others could exit the parking lot.

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Another dinner party thread - when the hostess serves expired food? Update p43
« on: March 10, 2022, 06:10:48 pm »
Quote from: velly j on March 10, 2022, 03:59:32 pm

OP, was this the same person who you wrote the previous thread about? I have to say that the thread is making me feel sick. I don't know what to advise, as I would never dream of serving bottled sauce to guests anyway. If I am hosting people, I make an effort, I don't use convenience foods much anyway and especially not for guests. As for out of date, bleugh. I wouldn't trust any food that that person made me again.

Ha! I make an effort AND I use things like jarred sauce. Even for guests. Two days past the best buy date is fine (if unopened up until then). My guess is something else made people sick or a guest brought a stomach bug as a hostess gift.

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Life in General / Re: Gifting Money . . .
« on: January 12, 2022, 01:20:31 pm »
Our son is a recent college graduate, making decent money but living on his own. His apartment has very little furniture. Buying furniture has not been a priority for him but he does plan to buy some stuff in the near future.

For Christmas, we gave him a "gift certificate" for a certain amount towards furniture (including delivery by his dear parents, since we have a much larger car). So far, we all shopped Ikea once where he found a tv table he wanted, which we paid for and deducted from his "gift certificate."

If we had given him the cash outright, he would be welcome to spend it on anything he wants. Since we made it a "gift certificate" (even a made-up one that is actually just us paying for stuff), he will spend it on furniture as intended (and save his own cash to spend on other stuff). Plus, it's a good excuse for us to visit him!

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Holidays / Re: HolidayStories
« on: December 27, 2021, 01:18:42 pm »
Like many families, we had a cat. Like many cats, she liked to climb the Christmas Tree. Unlike many families, my dad installed permanent hooks on the wall and wired the tree to the wall every year. It was much easier than keeping the cat out of the tree!

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Life in General / Re: The first rule of book club...
« on: November 12, 2021, 10:53:51 am »
Depends on your book club. My book club has been meeting every month for 18 years. We have three rules:

  • No books that are only out in hard cover (and now, we aim for books that are also on Kindle)
  • We discuss the book for at least a little while. Some books make for great discussions, some not so much. The host of the month usually has some questions to get us started.
  • It's ok if you haven't read the book or haven't finished it, but you are not allowed to stop the rest of the group from talking about plot points or the ending.

These rules work for us!

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