Bad Manners and Brimstone

I really don't see anything wrong or "over the top" with any of this, and some, if not most of those items could be useful for more than just one thing.  Q-tips are great for fixing small makeup mishaps.  Tweezers can be used for huge list of things.  It's nice to have a compact mirror in case you want to check something quickly and save a trip to the bathroom. 

I think your comments are kind of judgemental.  If it gives her peace of mind to have all these things handy, so be it.  It's her day, and I don't think any of it is all that outrageous.  She's not asking for her wedding dress designer to be there to make adjustments, or a police escort to the venue.

I wonder if maybe the employee had recently seen something in the media about kidnapping or trafficking and was especially sensitive to it.  Or maybe they it had been mentioned in some kind of training. 

Whatever the reason, as you said, good on her for being aware.

Speaking only for myself, if I'm cooking for a lot of people, I'll make a lot of things because I want there to be something for everyone.  You don't always know ahead of time who doesn't like or can't eat what food, so you make a lot in the hopes that everyone will have enough options.  If that means we end up with a lot of leftovers, so be it.  With 6 adults in the house, they'll get eaten!

These posts reminded me of something that happened when we were planning our wedding.

My fiancé (now husband) had become pretty friendly with a group of his coworkers and wanted to invite them, so we did and since we knew some of them were single, we put "and guest" on the invitations.  Well, this one guy, "Gary", had a long-term live-in GF, with whom he had 2 young kids (I think maybe ages 5 and 2).  Gary had mentioned that they were going to have GF's sister babysit so they could come to our wedding.  So one day after the invitations had gone out, Gary's GF stopped in at the shop where they worked.  (This was the first time my fiancé ever met GF).  After introductions, GF asks my fiancé "Can we bring my sister to your wedding?" 

DF was a bit confused, so he answered with, "Um . . . I'll talk to Gary about it."  Turned out, she was planning to bring her sister AND THEIR KIDS - none of whom had been invited. 

So, just imagine having not a plus 1, but a plus 4! 

DF told Gary that we couldn't accommodate them.  So we got the RSVP card back saying they were not coming and she had written on it "That is the weekend of our children's birthday party."  Uh, ok.

A year later, lo and behold my husband came home from work with a kids' birthday party invitation for (you guessed it) Gary's kids.  I had to laugh, because inside she put the kids' names and then, in parentheses, their ages.  All I could think was, if you have to tell us how old the kids are turning, then we obviously don't know you well enough to be invited to the party.  (I believed it was an obvious gift grab).

I was soooooo tempted to write on it "That is the weekend of our anniversary" and send it back with our regrets.

If you want to do diapers but want to "spruce it up" a bit, a diaper cake is pretty easy to make.  My daughter and I made one this summer for a baby shower and it was easy and came out looking pretty elegant, if I do say so myself.  There are ZILLIONS of videos on YouTube with instructions.  For ours, we rolled up the diapers and we made a 3-tier cake, and replaced a few of the diapers with rolled-up onesies.  Then I topped it with a toy and put a sunhat (from the registry) on the toy. 

Quote from: gellchom on November 23, 2021, 11:44:07 am

Have you ever tried to sleep on an overnight, overseas flight on which there is an excited high school aged youth group?  That takes it to a whole new level!

My very first overseas flight had with a high school band! I was in high school (not from the high school in question - just with my family) and found them annoying. I couldn't sleep. However, I found later that I can never sleep on an airplane. However, the most annoying was a group of old men from the American Legion? Lions? (I forget which) was having a convention in the hotel where we were staying. The high school group at least had chaperones that tried to keep things in check.

I was on a 3-hour flight one time, (pretty long time ago) with my husband (then fiancé) who is an extremely nervous flyer.  There was a group of guys, I'd say they were about in their mid-late 20's, sitting a few rows in front of us.  There were about 5 of them, but they were LOUD.  And they decided that it would be really entertaining to keep making jokes about the plane crashing.  Made for a really fun trip.   

I agree that it's extremely rude. 

And I think it's just another way of saying, "Ok, I'll do X with you if a better offer doesn't come along between now and then."