Bad Manners and Brimstone

Personally, I'd just stop inviting her to anything. And when she asks, tell her it's because you never come when you're invited anyways! Simple and to the point.

Ed.

Yeah that was a really hateful and insulting thing for Debbie to say. But I think it's just as well that you didn't say anything at the time so it didn't turn into a bigger argument and have you all making a scene at the restaurant. I think you should contact Haillie and definitely let her know that you completely disagree with Debbie and whoever else sided with her about her stupid and insulting opinion and let her know that she didn't do anything wrong. Then I think you should all start distancing yourself from Debbie. Who knows what she might've said about all of you behind your backs!

Ed.

This is actually a Mandela effect story and not nearly as interesting as the other stories but I thought I'd add it anyways. If you're familiar with Michael Jackson's "Thriller" album, then you know the front cover is a picture of Jackson in a reclined position and leaning on his left elbow. But I could absolutely swear when the album was first released back in the 80s the album cover picture was flipped the opposite way with Michael Jackson leaning on his right elbow! It's a really insignificant thing but it's always bugged me. LOL.

Ed.

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BIL's hair-brained schemes

Just curious: was that Autocorrect getting creative there, or is ‘hair-brained’ a thing now in Leftpondia? It’s new to me.

It should be hare-brained, not hair-brained.

Ed.

I agree with lowspark, I think she was just subtly trying to pressure you to buy something. Nothing more than that, at least she was polite about it.

Ed.

Quote from: Aleko on August 12, 2022, 01:21:50 pm

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My husband keeps saying that there doesn't seem to be any sense of shame.

There are areas where I'm glad we're losing that (when people's **** get leaked, for example), but other places where I wish we had more of it.

But the perpetrators of revenge p*rn and the like would definitely be the better for feeling more shame. There was a case about a dozen years ago now of a young man who had got off with a young woman who worked in the same merchant bank (I think; something of that kind, anyway) and was surprised and thrilled at her enthusiasm and inventiveness. On waking next morning he promptly messaged his best friend and told him all in lurid detail. BF then forwarded the story to his entire friend group, saying 'I feel honour-bound to share this', and of course by the time the unfortunate young woman arrived at work the entire City knew all about her bedroom exploits. More than a decade later I still can't get my head around what the word honour-bound could possibly have been doing in that sentence.

Just recently, I read something on Reddit. LW had a massive crush on a woman who worked in his local bar. He kept flirting with her, and finally one night, she agreed to go out with him. And to his delight, they even ended up in bed together. He was in heaven! The next night, he goes into the bar. He waves eagerly at her, and she smiles and waves back. So excited, he turns to the man next to him at the bar and spills his guts as to what happened. I mean, he had already told all of his friends what had happened (best sex he ever had!), but he was about to burst. So he described in detail to this man what had happened.

A few minutes later, he notices the man down at the far end of the bar, talking to his crush. The 2 of them are looking at the man's phone, and then she looks up at the LW and glares at him. Turns out, the man is an extremely old friend of the crush, and he recorded on his phone what the LW was saying, every explicit detail and the fact that he had already told everyone he knew and was now branching out to strangers.

Crush will no longer speak to LW. She refuses to wait on him (the other wait staff will still serve him, but he is feeling an icy cold chill in the air). She will cross the street to avoid him. LW was distraught. How could that awful man tell her? LW didn't know the man was a friend of hers! He thought he could safely expose her private life to a stranger. How can he make her forgive him?

As you may guess, the comments ripped him to shreds.

Wow, what the LW did was beyond despicable! It's too bad his "crush" didn't rip him a couple of new ones! 

Ed.

I think you're giving way to much importance to this neighbor. He doesn't want to be friends. Who cares! Let it go. Just ignore him and don't give it any more thought.

I agree with you, but for some people it's not always that easy and it has to be learned, I know I was like that too. I had to teach myself and learn to not always care what other people thought or worry that it was somehow all my fault that they were mad at me and didn't like me. I think for some of us it takes time to come to the realization that a lot of times it's just the way some people are and how they choose to react to you. And also coming to the realization that you don't have to be everybody's friend, nor should you want to be either.

Ed.