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Life in General / Re: Edamame warning?
« on: March 05, 2025, 02:15:26 pm »
Quote from: oogyda on March 04, 2025, 06:53:19 am
I don't think you should say anything.  People learn quickly enough by observing.  If they've decided they don't like it and will not eat more?  That's just more for me!!


This is my strategy with foods I'm unfamiliar with. My pod-eating friend figured it out. I think edamame is a little deceiving - it seems straightforward but - surprise!

Quote from: lowspark on March 04, 2025, 11:16:16 am
Particularly in this situation, since as you said, you didn't want to interrupt the the friend who was talking, I'm not sure there was a whole lot you could do.

Maybe make sure to grab the first one so that people see you eating it?

If you do want to say something, you might say, "I love edamame! Does everyone know how to eat it?"
That way you're not instructing people unless they ask.

The friend who was speaking was sharing something fairly deep, if had been more surface level conversation, I might have broken it.

I'm going to use the bolded- thank you! Like I said above, edamame might be an easy food to assume with.

Quote from: Rose Red on March 04, 2025, 02:45:08 pm
Yes please say something. I didn't know how to eat them the first time either and would have welcomed a heads up.


I will be from now on!

Quote from: EmmaJ on March 04, 2025, 05:23:42 pm
My ex-SIL mocked me for “wasting food” and popped the whole pod in her mouth and started chewing. She was obviously startled, but too stubborn to spit it out, and I just watched her struggle to chew that fibrous inedible pod. She actually swallowed it. When I offered her more, she said no thanks, I’m full.

Still roll my eyes every time I think of her.


Bwah ha ha! That's incredibly stubborn! Thanks for the laugh.

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Life in General / Edamame warning?
« on: March 03, 2025, 08:47:02 pm »
This has happened twice so I'm wondering if it's a me thing and if I should be doing something different.

I met friends for lunch the other day and was the first to arrive. I got seated and ordered two apps for table. I asked the waiter to hold them and put them in when everyone arrived. (I did this because I was starving and expected that everyone would alternate between catching up and looking at the menu.)

As predicted we were all chatting and nowhere near ready to order when the waiter put the appetizers down. One was edamame. I made a motion that they were for everyone, but didn't want to interrupt the the friend next to me who was talking.

Out of the corner of my eye I saw the friend seated diagonally from me take an edamame pod and put the whole thing in her mouth. I tried not to watch but she appeared surprised and then undid her napkin and spat the inedible part into it.

She watched another friend and me do the nibble and wiggle strategy and did the same to eat the edamame.

This is the second time I've ordered edamame and had someone pop the whole pod in their mouth. Other people have asked me how to eat it. (My husband said "Is this another 'forage for your calories' food?") I've never instructed someone on how to eat it unless they asked. I'm wondering if I should say something and, if so, what?

*edit - clarity

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Guests bringing home leftovers . . .
« on: January 10, 2025, 08:02:00 am »
AtHomeRose summed this up well for me. I think most guests would assume that food on their plate would end up in the trash and by taking that food, they're avoiding food waste. Asking to take food remaining in the serving dished or kitchen would be rude. This comes down to your having a plan for the food on their plate which is atypical. I thought a lot about using their bones and meat for soup and it gave me an ick, but I'm a little more of a germaphobe than most so initially I thought maybe that was just me.

The solution of halving the birds is a great idea and might make them easier to eat at the table.

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The Work Day / Re: Year-end review question . . . follow-up on "My Promotion" thread. UPDATE #8, #12, #13
« on: December 18, 2024, 05:02:54 pm »
Hooray!! I'm so happy for you!


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Gaming / Re: Word Association Game
« on: November 14, 2024, 11:23:41 pm »
Bottle

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Gaming / Re: Word Association Game
« on: November 14, 2024, 11:44:34 am »
virus

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Life in General / Re: Sharing - not exactly what I (actually didn't) sign up for!
« on: October 31, 2024, 04:32:25 pm »
Quote from: vintagegal on October 28, 2024, 02:29:55 pm
sometimes your flabber is so gasted you can't think of what to do in the moment!

This is so me! That's why I love the discussions here because I've learned to respond better in the moment. There was an article recently that rudeness can be life threatening. Basically, when people are rude to medical personnel it can short circuit the medical personnel's response and cost precious time. (I'll look for the article and maybe start a thread.)




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Family and Children / Re: Niece has gone no contact- can I send a Christmas card?
« on: October 31, 2024, 04:30:00 pm »
If I'm reading between the lines correctly.... it seems like you have a bit of concern that her lack of contact might be less than voluntary and could be a sign that her husband is isolating her from her family/ natural supports. In that case I would send the card to her work address. I take Wanaca's point about wanting to keep things separate, but this could be an appropriate exception. When I worked in an office, I got all kinds of holiday cards; because it's so normalized to get them, this is a perfect opportunity to reach out in a low key manner. I'd definitely include all the ways she can reach you.

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Gaming / Re: Word Association Game
« on: October 07, 2024, 10:25:35 am »
internet

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Life in General / Re: Shelf clearing and "cherry picking"
« on: July 05, 2024, 02:34:15 pm »
Oh my heck! My first W2 job was at an independent grocery store and the owner called people buying the loss leader items "(profanity) cherry pickers." When the woman called me a cherry picker I was tempted to ask if she'd worked there, or say, "Actually a cherry picker is someone who only buys loss leaders."

One time I was counting my drawer and the owner was in the office complaining about the cherry pickers. Apparently he was going to go to the poor house over people buying Crystal Light. He was watching the carts go by and commenting on how many Crystal Lights they had and how much money he was losing on each cart. I had to keep re-starting my counting until the fourth or fifth time when I had to ask him to stop saying numbers.

(The Crystal Light wasn't the only loss leader that week but it was the one that made him the craziest.)

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Life in General / Re: How to respond in a nice way but still convey my message
« on: May 16, 2024, 09:43:08 am »
Quote from: Rho on May 13, 2024, 10:22:25 pm
By the way, her typical excuse for missing is something like, "I fell asleep on the couch."

I would want to reply to THAT " You mean my invitation was so unimportant that you fell asleep and didn't set your alarm?.  Her response is not passive/ agressive  it's a bald insult.  You are wise to disengage an selectivley invite her.

I'm not a napper, unless I'm coming down with something, so that influences how I'd respond... I'd ask, privately, if she's feeling okay and suggest she get a workup with the doc. Falling asleep and missing a party seems extreme to me.

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The Work Day / Re: Year-end review question . . . follow-up on "My Promotion" thread
« on: February 06, 2024, 08:27:12 am »
Quote from: jpcher on February 05, 2024, 05:48:47 pm
Quote from: lowspark on February 05, 2024, 03:11:03 pm
It sounds to me like you've had to prove yourself over and over because of the organization's changeover in that role. Is no one putting anything in writing?

All of my annual reviews are put into writing and stored in the HR portal that's available for all (new) managers to read. I have a 1:1 discussion with manager about my review when I can rebut, give my thoughts, agree with or add to. I then have the opportunity to make comments and sign the review. So everything is documented.

I'm thinking that any new management that comes on board would like to see their employees in action without any previous comments that might sway their opinion one way or the other.

That's what I think lowspark means. My perspective is when a new manager is forming their own opinions, you're put back at the starting gate and need to show your worth. Again. To continue my metaphor, you hit the last quarter turn and are closing in on the promotion or raise and... new management! Back to the starting gate.

Could you keep a running document of the stand out scores and comments and be prepared to show that and advocate for yourself?

I think this would be a great scenario for "Ask a Manager."

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Gaming / Re: Word Association Game
« on: February 05, 2024, 10:57:21 am »
Slot

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Gaming / Re: Word Association Game
« on: February 04, 2024, 04:43:12 pm »
Purse

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The Work Day / Re: Year-end review question . . . follow-up on "My Promotion" thread
« on: February 04, 2024, 07:51:11 am »
Those are great comments! Congratulations! Your work is cleary speaking for itself.

It's so hard for me to decode corporate speak. In the moment, I would have said, "Operationally define 'take care'." Or, I would have said, "I hope take care translates to dollars." I think it's important to let upper management know that you expect compensation commensurate with your work product.

Edit- typo



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