Bad Manners and Brimstone

Hello - a small etiquette question for your all.

I belong to our local Buy Nothing group on Facebook, where people request and give everything and anything. When you post something, other's reply with 'please consider me' or 'I would love to be considered' and the original poster choses whoever they want, no justification expected or needed.

Anyway, someone posted a doona cover, and while I wasn't in need of a doona cover, I did quite like the fabric. So after seeing that no one had replied to the post in a couple of hours, I put my hand up.

I was successful and picked it up (all done contactless, so I didn't see the gifter). After picking it I sent a message saying I had collected it, and she wrote back saying 'sweet dreams'.

So - should I write back saying 'thanks, I made a skirt', and/or send a picture? Or should I leave it?

thoughts?

^^^  I wish I could upvote that about a thousand times. 

Clearly the giver hoped the recipient would be sleeping with it.  Please don't destroy her vision of how it would be used.    It would be unnecessarily cruel.   You have thanked her.  Now please leave it alone.

I agree with everybody. If you want to respond, just say thanks again. Don't tell her you made a skirt.

I'm going against the prevailing opinion. I would love to hear you turned it into a skirt. If I'm giving something away, I don't care how the recipient plans to enjoy it. I'm just happy they found a useful purpose. And I'd admire your skill and creativity.

The only caveat to this would be say you take someone's free wedding dress and turn it into a halloween costume. Then I probably wouldn't share that.

I'm going against the prevailing opinion. I would love to hear you turned it into a skirt. If I'm giving something away, I don't care how the recipient plans to enjoy it. I'm just happy they found a useful purpose. And I'd admire your skill and creativity.

I would agree, if the gifter hadn't said, 'Sweet dreams'.  With that having been said, I would leave it alone or just reply 'Thanks'.

Quote from: Hmmm on September 21, 2020, 08:55:56 am

I'm going against the prevailing opinion. I would love to hear you turned it into a skirt. If I'm giving something away, I don't care how the recipient plans to enjoy it. I'm just happy they found a useful purpose. And I'd admire your skill and creativity.

The only caveat to this would be say you take someone's free wedding dress and turn it into a halloween costume. Then I probably wouldn't share that.

Normally I'd agree wholeheartedly with you.  But the person made very clear in her response that she hoped the LW would be sleeping with it.  She said so.  Why shatter her feelings of joy and happiness at the idea of someone cuddling with her cover?  It just seems kind of mean.

I actually didn't associate the "sweet dreams" comment to the fact of what the item was! I heard it just as a "have a good night" to acknowledge the receipt of the message.  Yeah, I can see everyone's point.

I agree with the majority.

What’s to be gained by telling her you made a skirt?

When you said you'd like it did you say you wanted it for the fabric? If  so I'd say I made a skirt.
If you didn't I'd just say thanks