Author Topic: Thanking Adults For Doing Ordinary Tasks Around the House  (Read 1574 times)

BeagleMommy

BeagleDaddy, BeagleBoy,and I thank each other when doing every day things.

If I ask BeagleBoy to bring down the laundry baskets I always thank him because they are quite heavy and too much for me to lift.
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holly firestorm

So many people take the ordinary little things we do for each other for granted that it's nice to be reminded they are appreciated.  It's like saying "thank you" when someone holds the door for you, even if they would have to practically slam it in your face not to do so. 

I live alone, so, I don't experience this so much INSIDE my home.  But, I always thank the grocery cashier for his/her help.  They are only doing their job, but I appreciate it. I thank our apartment manager every time he does something nice for us, even if it's his job.  It's appreciated. 

I go to an archery range and ALL the maintenance is on us, not the Park or anybody else. When I help sweep up, the coach thanks me. When I see him doing something like that, I thank him. I thank the Park Maintenance people when I see them cleaning out the Park bathroom. It's their job, but the rest rooms sure do get unpleasant if they don't do it.

The more appreciated we make each other feel, the more we are willing to go out of our way for each other.
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Winterlight

I do, however, sympathize with people whose spouses practically demand a tickertape parade for doing anything around the house, but blow off their efforts. That is, the husband who wants endless appreciation for taking the trash out once while ignoring the fact that his wife cleaned the entire downstairs, cooked dinner, and kept three children under the age of five from Darwining themselves while doing both those things.
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So many people take the ordinary little things we do for each other for granted that it's nice to be reminded they are appreciated.  It's like saying "thank you" when someone holds the door for you, even if they would have to practically slam it in your face not to do so. 

I live alone, so, I don't experience this so much INSIDE my home.  But, I always thank the grocery cashier for his/her help.  They are only doing their job, but I appreciate it. I thank our apartment manager every time he does something nice for us, even if it's his job.  It's appreciated. 

I go to an archery range and ALL the maintenance is on us, not the Park or anybody else. When I help sweep up, the coach thanks me. When I see him doing something like that, I thank him. I thank the Park Maintenance people when I see them cleaning out the Park bathroom. It's their job, but the rest rooms sure do get unpleasant if they don't do it.

The more appreciated we make each other feel, the more we are willing to go out of our way for each other.

I am the grocery cashier!  I get thanked all the time, and while it's "just doing my job", we appreciate the thanks!  Like Chez Miriam's analogy of a bank account,  three "thank you's" or "you did a nice job" can balance out one grouch, condescending, or jabbing on a phone :)

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On buses here in the UK, when the exit is at the front next to the driver it’s normal courtesy to say ‘Thanks!’ or ‘Goodbye!’ to the driver as you get off. Logically you might argue that it’s their job to drive that bus and they haven’t done anything for you personally, but it’s always good to acknowledge people doing their jobs as human beings.
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I do, however, sympathize with people whose spouses practically demand a tickertape parade for doing anything around the house, but blow off their efforts. That is, the husband who wants endless appreciation for taking the trash out once while ignoring the fact that his wife cleaned the entire downstairs, cooked dinner, and kept three children under the age of five from Darwining themselves while doing both those things.

I so laughed when I read your post, Winterlight!  Once,  years ago, DH cleaned the kitchen after I'd fixed supper. I guess I didn't gush about it, because he pointed it out later. I was a bit short with him when I told him, "That's great, but no one throws me a parade when I do it the other 90% of the time!"  Point was taken.
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Winterlight

On buses here in the UK, when the exit is at the front next to the driver it’s normal courtesy to say ‘Thanks!’ or ‘Goodbye!’ to the driver as you get off. Logically you might argue that it’s their job to drive that bus and they haven’t done anything for you personally, but it’s always good to acknowledge people doing their jobs as human beings.

We do that over here as well. Is it necessary, no, but it's a courtesy, and I think life is better with more courtesies rather than less.

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I just thought of this thread the other day.

My husband told me, in the middle of the day, that he moved something large that I thought I'd have to a. help figure out where to put it and b. help move. I thanked him them, and, when I finished working and didn't have that chore hanging over my head, said, "Thank you again for dealing with (X) I really appreciate it." He said, "Oh, I didn't move it to the garage, I just moved it under the roof of the porch."

I said, "Well, I'm taking that 'thank you' back" and reached my hand out and plucked it away from him. He went right out (at 11 p.m.) and moved the thing to it's permanent home. Those thank yous are pretty impactful.  ;D
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