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Diamonds

Vacation home Issues
« on: August 08, 2020, 11:29:33 pm »
First post on this new board but have been around!

This is not even an issue yet, but wanted to get the board’s opinion. We’ve rented a vacation home for a week with my family (DH and DD, 13 years old) and a long time friend of ours, who’s in our social bubble so obviously very close to the family. We go Monday, and the house has a master bedroom with a king bed and a gorgeous view of the lake, and two queen bedrooms that don’t face lakewards. As far as the split of the cost of the house, I thought it was fair to split four ways, with my family playing for 3/4 of the rental and that was agreed upon by my friend.

My assumption is that my DH and I will take the master, with my friend and my daughter each getting a queen room. We literally have not discussed this, but am I being presumptuous?

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Mary Sunshine Rain

Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #1 on: August 09, 2020, 12:49:40 am »
Not at all.  Why wouldn't you take the bigger bed?

I think it's great that you are thinking of your friend and their possible desire for a lake view from their bedroom.  But, really, it makes practical sense for you and your DH to take that room. 

You can also think of it this way: The king sized bedroom is like 2 bedrooms and with your daughter's room you're paying for 3.

Your friend will likely be very comfortable in the other room with the queen bed.  They can enjoy the lake in their waking hours.  It's not a penance to not have a lake view.  And you don't have to feel uncomfortable for taking what you see as the better accommodation.

Just enjoy your time away!
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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #2 on: August 09, 2020, 01:24:26 am »
If, say, your friend or your daughter were paying for the whole thing and had invited the others at her expense, she would have a claim on the nicest room. But as you’re splitting the cost four ways between the four of you, I reckon it should go without saying that the only couple get the bigger room with the bigger bed. There are two to fit into it, after all.

I reckon that if all the rooms had lake views you would think it quite weird for anyone to suggest that the only couple shouldn’t get the biggest room. But two of the rooms haven’t, and so at least two of the party were always going to be deprived of that. Look at it this way: if you and DH didn’t take that room, there would be three of the party deprived!
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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #3 on: August 09, 2020, 05:56:13 am »
I don't see anything wrong with the way you are dividing things.  Besides, when two people share a king sized bed, they each get the equivalence of a twin sized area to sleep.
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« Reply #4 on: August 09, 2020, 06:30:03 am »
If it were me as the single person, it wouldn't occur to me to have the king size room since the cost and space is equal. It's just that the couple's two spaces happen to be in one room.
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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #5 on: August 09, 2020, 08:39:20 am »
This might be unfair if you were expecting to split with you paying two thirds (i.e. per room) but since there are effectively four sleeping ‘spaces’ in the rental, it only makes sense for the married couple to take the two in the same bed.

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« Reply #6 on: August 09, 2020, 10:07:51 am »
You have far less sleeping space in your king sized bed than your daughter and the other guest will have all alone in their queen sized ones.  And bedrooms are for sleeping.  Can't see much of the lake at night anyway, so a lake view from the room doesn't really matter at all.
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« Reply #7 on: August 09, 2020, 04:09:04 pm »
Why borrow trouble?  You're worrying about something there may not be a cause to worry about. 

Even then, I think you could avoid trouble by the attitude you take.  Go into it with the assumption that you, as a couple, get the master bedroom.  Do not discuss it beforehand.  Do not ask permission (saying "is that alright?" or "if that's okay with you." is asking permission).  I'm not saying you have to be mean or the least little bit gruff about it..........just don't be wishy-washy.
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« Reply #8 on: August 09, 2020, 06:10:34 pm »
I think it would be rather silly for you not to take the master bedroom. There's two of you, ergo, you take the biggest room.
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« Reply #9 on: August 09, 2020, 07:31:30 pm »
I hope that you have a great time!! 

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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #10 on: August 10, 2020, 09:50:26 am »
Welcome to posting. Yes, I agree that the two of you would be the default to getting the master bedroom with the larger space.

I do get why you'd suddenly wonder if you were being presumptuous to assume that you and your DH would utilize the master. However, as the 3rd adult, it would never dawn on my to think I had any claims on the master unless I was splitting the cost of the house evenly.

I hope you have a wonderful time.
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« Reply #11 on: August 10, 2020, 01:04:18 pm »
I agree that I would have assumed that you would get the larger bedroom. However, I would be quite comfortable with anyone in my bubble saying, "It occurred to me that we didn't discuss the bedroom situation and I would hate for there to be a misunderstanding during our vacation." You will probably find that friend will say, "Of course the two of you get the master bedroom", but if not, you will be aware before you get there!

I will say as the single traveling with couples, I always assume that I will have the smaller (and typically lesser quality) bedroom. If you are ever in situation where the smaller bedroom could work for you, it would be a beautiful, friendly gesture to offer the master to your friend. I would never expect it, but it would mean something special to me to have it offered.
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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #12 on: August 11, 2020, 01:48:18 pm »
First post on this new board but have been around!

This is not even an issue yet, but wanted to get the board’s opinion. We’ve rented a vacation home for a week with my family (DH and DD, 13 years old) and a long time friend of ours, who’s in our social bubble so obviously very close to the family. We go Monday, and the house has a master bedroom with a king bed and a gorgeous view of the lake, and two queen bedrooms that don’t face lakewards. As far as the split of the cost of the house, I thought it was fair to split four ways, with my family playing for 3/4 of the rental and that was agreed upon by my friend.

My assumption is that my DH and I will take the master, with my friend and my daughter each getting a queen room. We literally have not discussed this, but am I being presumptuous?

Bold above. It was agreed upon. Nothing to worry about.

As posters said, if I were Friend I think it would be presumptuous of me to ask for the master bedroom, and I would not do that. After all, you did the planning, inviting, etc. 

You are perfectly fine by taking the master bedroom.


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Re: Vacation home Issues
« Reply #13 on: August 11, 2020, 06:58:11 pm »
I agree; you get the master bedroom.  If you had split it by room so that friend was paying 1/3, then I think you would have to have some way to decide who gets what room.  But by person?  The two people sharing get the biggest room.
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« Reply #14 on: August 24, 2020, 02:16:21 pm »
I think what you are doing is super fair...you are paying for 3/4 of the house as you have 3/4 of the people.

What you could do is to say to your friend that her room will be the one closest to the hall bathroom and you two will be in the master and your daughter has the other room.