I’m not sure why you think that if someone does not like the idea of looking 10 to 20 years older than they are, that they are being ageist.
How so? Do you assume if someone is 30 and is upset because someone else insinuates they look 50, that they either dislike 50 year olds or they think 50 year olds are not beautiful?
I can’t see any other way one would apply ageism to this, but it’s really a huge and negative assumption.
I’m 48. I’m fine with being 48. Although I am vain. I have had some beauty and it is a nice thing. There were times in my 20’s when I would turn heads all night at an event. Luckily, I could go out the next night and no one would give me a second glance. So I’m a bit vain, but I know I’m nothing special.
I also love women. I admire women who are strong in character, but I’m talking about vanity and beauty here, so I’ll focus on that.
I admire tall women, I admire well dressed women, I admire the way women hold themselves. I will watch women 10 or 20 years older than me and think, I hope I can pull that off.
I don’t hate older women. I watch them and I listen to them. I admire their beauty, I see how they wear their make-up and their hair and how they dress and how they hold themselves. I really love the strength of some older women and I love the ones that still care about participating in life, about still being active and having strong voices and ensuring that we all know what a force they still are.
I love being around them and I soak up their strength.
But, as I said, I am vain.
I do get disappointed when I look in the mirror and see more wrinkles. Or that line by the side of my lip that disappears when I pull my skin back. This is about me, not about hating older people.
I do my best to look the best I can. I eat well, I exercise, I care for my skin and my body, I dress as well as I can. If I could afford Kate Middleton’s clothes that’s what I’d be wearing.
Anyway, I think you should consider that instead of someone disliking older people or believing older people are unattractive, maybe the being upset when the suggestion of looking 20 years older is just a reaction to ones vanity.
Beauty is a powerful thing. Elderly people are beautiful, but ones own beauty isn’t some trinket that can be put on or off. It’s an ever changing thing and we’re allowed to feel a sense of loss about this, just as we feel a sense of loss when we workout well enough but we can’t stop own bones from creaking as we do it.
I’m not feeling great sitting here writing about how vain I am. I am certainly not turning heads these days and I don’t think I’m special. But I also think women should be allowed to care about their appearance, I think we’re allowed to be somewhat protective of our beauty.
I don’t want to be any younger than I am, but I don’t think it’s ageism to say I’m in to rush to be 20 years older than I am either.
Do you think that because I don’t want to be 20, and I don’t want to look like I’m 20 that I dislike youth?
Beauty is everywhere. It’s in youth, age, wood, water, emotion, a shoe. Just because you value a thing doesn’t mean you hate another.