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Elle Kruger

Re: Defriending On-Line, Pretending to Friend IRL
« Reply #15 on: May 20, 2018, 08:12:14 am »
I don’t think Bob has been a good friend, and your DH is probably better off letting the idea of friendship go. Regardless, the equipment in your basement needs to be picked up. You’re not a storage facility and you don’t want to be liable if something were to happen. Sue sounds like the type of person who would love to cause trouble, so I’d sever any ties between you/DH and her/Bob just to be safe.
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Winterlight

Re: Defriending On-Line, Pretending to Friend IRL
« Reply #16 on: May 20, 2018, 10:43:02 am »
I agree with everyone who says you should get the equipment out somehow. Your DH can try to reach out again, but I wouldn't. It doesn't sound like Bob has missed him at all, and being friends with Bob means potential interaction with Sue.
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Dr. F.

Re: Defriending On-Line, Pretending to Friend IRL
« Reply #17 on: May 20, 2018, 11:34:07 am »
Quote from: Octavia on May 19, 2018, 09:43:43 pm
BIf Bob isn't up for it, I can share what I did with an ex who refused to collect furniture and other belongings from my house. My jurisdiction requires at least a 30-day notification prior to disposing someone's property. So I sent ex a registered letter warning him that I was moving his belongings to a storage unit for which I'd pay one month of rent. He therefore had 30 days to pick up his stuff from the unit, or it would be confiscated by the storage unit owner. In either case, it was out of my house & no longer my problem. Hope you won't have to escalate to this action though. Good luck, and let us know how things work out!

Out of curiosity, did it work? Did ex collect his stuff? I ask because I was in a similar situation once, and it didn't end well.
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Re: Defriending On-Line, Pretending to Friend IRL
« Reply #18 on: May 20, 2018, 07:11:18 pm »
Quote from: Dr. F. on May 20, 2018, 11:34:07 am
Quote from: Octavia on May 19, 2018, 09:43:43 pm
BIf Bob isn't up for it, I can share what I did with an ex who refused to collect furniture and other belongings from my house. My jurisdiction requires at least a 30-day notification prior to disposing someone's property. So I sent ex a registered letter warning him that I was moving his belongings to a storage unit for which I'd pay one month of rent. He therefore had 30 days to pick up his stuff from the unit, or it would be confiscated by the storage unit owner. In either case, it was out of my house & no longer my problem. Hope you won't have to escalate to this action though. Good luck, and let us know how things work out!

Out of curiosity, did it work? Did ex collect his stuff? I ask because I was in a similar situation once, and it didn't end well.
It did work! I should have mentioned that I had listed my house for sale and needed it decluttered for showings. So I used that as an excuse to get his belongings out. I had included an inventory of his belongings in the letter and photographed them once in the storage unit to account for them and their condition. He wasn't happy with me but understood and was glad I didn't just throw his property out like his previous exes had (see a pattern there?). He ended up renewing the storage unit rental agreement on his own until figuring out what to do with his things. I don't remember how long as I moved after selling my house and accidentally on purpose lost touch with him. What went wrong in your situation?
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