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DaDancingPsych

Mistaken Identity
« on: May 25, 2018, 07:37:15 am »
Oh boy... Facebook etiquette time!

I met Angie probably two months ago when she was in town for a large dancing event. Our interactions were brief, but pleasant, so when she attempted to friend me on Facebook, I accepted.

Angie returned to our city for unrelated matters, but did drop into one of our weekly dancing events. I did say hello and chatted with her a bit.

Angie posted a few pictures from her trip on Facebook the next day and the following paraphrased conversation occurred below the pictures.

DDP: It was really nice to see you again; it looks like you had a great trip!

Angie: I did! I almost forgot to post the pictures of us!!! (This seemed odd to me, as I did not recall taking any pictures with Angie, but it is not uncommon for someone to take some of people dancing, so I figured that is what she had.)

DDP: Most people don't tag me, because I am not all that photogenic.

Angie: I LOVE our selfies together.

And before I could even try to figure out what selfie I took with her, I received a notification that I was tagged in approximately 20 selfies. The problem? All of the pictures are of Angie and Brenda (not me). She apparently has me confused. What is the best way to tell Angie that I am not Brenda? I felt funny just announcing it, because it is obvious that the two of them spent much more time together and got along really well. I did not want to embarrass Angie, but I also feel weird that I am tagged in so many photos that are certainly not me.

Do you have any thoughts on how to most graciously handle incorrectly tagged photos?

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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #1 on: May 25, 2018, 08:46:37 am »
I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."
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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #2 on: May 25, 2018, 08:50:57 am »
I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."
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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #3 on: May 25, 2018, 11:56:12 am »
I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."

The was my solution also, untag quickly and then PM her. On the "quickly" part, you want to disconnect your name from Brenda's image in case it populates to Google images or another such site. Also, you don't want FB making that connection and giving Brenda as a suggestion to friends tagging you. (Although they should know the difference and not to select Brenda.)

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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #4 on: May 29, 2018, 11:35:52 am »
Thanks everyone! This was such a great, simple answer to what I was blowing up as a big issue. I did as suggested and everything seems to have worked out well.

I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."

The was my solution also, untag quickly and then PM her. On the "quickly" part, you want to disconnect your name from Brenda's image in case it populates to Google images or another such site. Also, you don't want FB making that connection and giving Brenda as a suggestion to friends tagging you. (Although they should know the difference and not to select Brenda.)

Is there a reason that I should have been anxious to quickly separate my name from the photos? They were goofy, but not really embarrassing. Brenda (and Angie, too) are both stunningly beautiful, so I would not be all too upset to be mistaken for either of them. I am just curious if there is a reason that I am unaware of that I should be concerned with.

Thanks!

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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #5 on: May 29, 2018, 01:36:13 pm »
Thanks everyone! This was such a great, simple answer to what I was blowing up as a big issue. I did as suggested and everything seems to have worked out well.

I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."

The was my solution also, untag quickly and then PM her. On the "quickly" part, you want to disconnect your name from Brenda's image in case it populates to Google images or another such site. Also, you don't want FB making that connection and giving Brenda as a suggestion to friends tagging you. (Although they should know the difference and not to select Brenda.)

Is there a reason that I should have been anxious to quickly separate my name from the photos? They were goofy, but not really embarrassing. Brenda (and Angie, too) are both stunningly beautiful, so I would not be all too upset to be mistaken for either of them. I am just curious if there is a reason that I am unaware of that I should be concerned with.

Thanks!

I believe it has to do with face recognition technology. It will recognize her face to your name eventually and offer it as a suggestion. I think. But that may be more annoying to her and her friends than it might be to you.

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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #6 on: May 29, 2018, 02:07:52 pm »
Thanks everyone! This was such a great, simple answer to what I was blowing up as a big issue. I did as suggested and everything seems to have worked out well.

I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."

The was my solution also, untag quickly and then PM her. On the "quickly" part, you want to disconnect your name from Brenda's image in case it populates to Google images or another such site. Also, you don't want FB making that connection and giving Brenda as a suggestion to friends tagging you. (Although they should know the difference and not to select Brenda.)

Is there a reason that I should have been anxious to quickly separate my name from the photos? They were goofy, but not really embarrassing. Brenda (and Angie, too) are both stunningly beautiful, so I would not be all too upset to be mistaken for either of them. I am just curious if there is a reason that I am unaware of that I should be concerned with.

Thanks!

I believe it has to do with face recognition technology. It will recognize her face to your name eventually and offer it as a suggestion. I think. But that may be more annoying to her and her friends than it might be to you.

Yes, and I mentioned quickly because I could see it escalating into a comedy of errors. So, the technology links your name with that face and one of her friends posts a pic, FB makes the suggestion and she just clicks the first one because the first one is typically the correct one, then it reinforces the process and you have one more to correct.

It was more about getting in front of something than it being alarming to be linked to her. (I hope that makes sense??)
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Re: Mistaken Identity
« Reply #7 on: May 31, 2018, 08:10:39 am »
Thanks everyone! This was such a great, simple answer to what I was blowing up as a big issue. I did as suggested and everything seems to have worked out well.

I'd untag yourself on the pictures and send s PM with. " Hi, I think you clicked the wrong name when you were tagging your photos. I think you meant to tag Breanda. Have a great weekend."

I like this. Calling it an accident gives her a way to "save face."

The was my solution also, untag quickly and then PM her. On the "quickly" part, you want to disconnect your name from Brenda's image in case it populates to Google images or another such site. Also, you don't want FB making that connection and giving Brenda as a suggestion to friends tagging you. (Although they should know the difference and not to select Brenda.)

Is there a reason that I should have been anxious to quickly separate my name from the photos? They were goofy, but not really embarrassing. Brenda (and Angie, too) are both stunningly beautiful, so I would not be all too upset to be mistaken for either of them. I am just curious if there is a reason that I am unaware of that I should be concerned with.

Thanks!

I believe it has to do with face recognition technology. It will recognize her face to your name eventually and offer it as a suggestion. I think. But that may be more annoying to her and her friends than it might be to you.

Yes, and I mentioned quickly because I could see it escalating into a comedy of errors. So, the technology links your name with that face and one of her friends posts a pic, FB makes the suggestion and she just clicks the first one because the first one is typically the correct one, then it reinforces the process and you have one more to correct.

It was more about getting in front of something than it being alarming to be linked to her. (I hope that makes sense??)

Yes, that does make sense! Thank you for the explanation. Call me old school, but I am not sure that I like that the technology world can identify my face, so I am fine with it being confused!  =P  But I appreciate the knowledge!