Author Topic: Would you warn someone that they were easily identifiable?  (Read 1637 times)

Belle

Yes and yes. I sometimes slightly change aspects of my posts (that are unrelated to the point of the post) for privacy reasons. If I've accidentally revealed info or a link that would make me potentially identifiable, a heads up would always be appreciated.


She didn't say she would, just that it would be easy for someone to do. Not everyone has scruples and apparently a fair number of people have a lot of time on their hands.

But, that's true in general.  The question is how would she know if she hadn't looked herself?  She would have had to have looked herself to know it, unless someone else told her, which would be a whole other situation.

I wouldn't need to look somebody up to know whether they've revealed enough info to potentially out him or herself, I would just need to know that they've revealed enough info to make it possible. Sometimes I forget what details about my life that I include in posts, particularly older posts, so it's possible to accidentally reveal too much info.

For example, there were two posters on the previous site who clearly lived within 10-20 minutes of me (in a not particularly population dense area). They never posted enough detail to indicate who they were, but if they had posted a unique story or event that was googleable, I'm sure I could have found out who they were by virtue of knowing (from their years of posting) that they lived very close to me.

Would I look them up? No. But it might be nice to warn them, "Hey, just so you know, that story you just posted, combined with info from years ago about where you live, makes you pretty easy to look up online. If you're concerned about your privacy, you may want to make some edits."


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Honestly, I think my answer depends a lot on the circumstances and the behavior of the person to be warned/not warned.

I'm a big fan of the idea that people should reap what they sew.  If the person whose identifying information was easily found was acting like a jackass, then I wouldn't go out of my way to warn them.  If, however, they were being reasonable (even if their opinions on a topic were different from mine), then I probably would warn them.

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I deleted it from my copy quick smart, and PMed him to tell him. And then I treated it like an inadvertent etiquette fail, actually - pretended it had never happened.

Like a fart.  :D

And, you acted just the way you would if you'd eavesdropped either deliberately or accidentally.

I'm probably findable, but I don't sweat it. However, if I posted something that made it way too easy, like their address is visible in the photo, or something, then I'd vote for telling people right away.
    Much the way you'd alert someone that their zipper was down, or their tag was up, or toilet paper was stuck to their shoe.

I have had people do it for me.

(the best, though, was the time someone on a forum scolded me for an opinion because since my husband owned a car dealership, I shouldn't think that way. I was like, "whut?" That was really rude, because outing someone is rude, but also--my husband doesn't own a car dealership. Like, at all.)
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I'd want to know but, as Twik said, it isn't easy to hide your tracks on the internet.  Which is why you shouldn't post anything anywhere that you would want to stay private.
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JacklynHyde

As someone who works pretty hard to compartmentalize the different aspects of my life (my Twitter and FB streams will rarely cross), I would want to know if something I had posted might put my privacy at risk.

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I would probably warn someone if it seemed likely that other people would make the connection, and that they were making any efforts to hide it. If someone is using something that looks like a real name (something like "Mary Jane Olsen" rather than "MJ_in_Minnesota" or "I love cookies") I'll assume that either they're okay with people associating their real names with their posts, or they decided that "Mary Jane Olsen" would be less conspicuous than "Queen of the May." I've noticed over the years that people who post with odd-seeming names are often assumed to be using handles/pseudonyms, but things that look like ordinary names are taken at face value.

I also wouldn't assume that Person1 was being careful about Person2's identity; if you start blogging as This_is_an_alias but tell a hundred of your closest friends that that's your alias, one of them may offhandedly say here's a cool thing my friend Jay said" and link to the until-them pseudonymous blog. This happened to a friend of mine, ages ago; the person who posted the link hadn't thought that maybe there was a reason that her LiveJournal, unlike his, didn't have her real name on it anywhere. Oh, as a meta-level thing, it's possible that this post contains enough information for someone to guess who I might be, the way "I went to high school with $person" compared with my current location might be. However, that would take a bit of work, unless you're one of a few of my friends, in which case PM me if you want to identify yourself.
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Victoria

I can't speak for anyone else but if it's me, please shoot me a pm.  :P

Roodabega

I am friends in FB with a woman at work.  She and her friends were arranging a get together and they were all posting their phone numbers on the post.  The post was originated by someone else who I wasn't friends with, but I was seeing all of their phone numbers because I was a "friend of a friend".  I did an FYI private message to my friend letting her know if I could see the post of HER friend, then so can all of the other "friends of friends" and everyone who read it now had her phone number.

Shortly after I mentioned that, she modified her post, and I noticed that almost all of the other phone numbers were soon gone.
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