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Re: Conventional remarks to avoid
« Reply #15 on: August 11, 2018, 05:27:36 am »
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I know there are plenty who will disagree with me, but I'll go ahead and put this out there regarding offense being taken when referred to as "Mrs. (Groom'slastname)":

I understand that your name may not change once your married, but Mrs. Groom'slastname is an appropriate *title*.

I obviously haven't made myself clear. I never said, nor would I, that any of the remarks I listed were offensive. I said that they were futile (in that there is no polite response to them other than a sickly smile) and were frequently annoying. Plenty of remarks that are not offensive are intensely annoying . (I often think, as my MIL picks up the restaurant menu, that if she trills "Oh, this will be too much for me to eat, I have such a small appetite!" one more time, I'll SCREAM. But I would never assert that this remark was 'offensive'.)

And, Oogyda: if a bride decides not to change her surname on marriage, 'Mrs Groom'slastname' is an only an appropriate title for her in the sense that Mr Bride'slastname' is an appropriate title for her husband.

Though, come to think of it, asking the groom at a wedding reception "How does it feel to be 'Mr Bride'slastname'?" would at least be an interesting conversational ploy.
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