Unfortunately this vile woman is my father's mother. She was never a grandmother to me hence the quotes. She fell down some concrete steps and hit her head when I was in my late teens and was nice to me for about 3 weeks but it never made up for her calling me a fat lazy **** to mention just one that sticks with me. I don't consider her my blood relation and being forced to grow up around her has made me a better person - well I like to think it has.
This doesn't surprise me at all. In my experience the people who use racial slurs aren't just bigots, they're nasty human beings in other ways. They're the kind of people you stop associating with because they're just so unpleasant to be around.