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Re: Honorary Flower Girl - Sorta?
« Reply #45 on: August 03, 2020, 05:35:00 pm »
I hope we've not scared you away. What I love about this group is the ability to ask a question and get blunt and honest feedback. Often friends or family will soften their input based on what they think you want to hear. Or if it's an aunt or grandparent giving input about your child, of course the child is an angel at all times.

When my daughter was in Pre-K, she attended a school where the administrator really, really disliked the idea of referring to young girls as princesses.  The school's main perspective was that a "princess" lives a different life and is considered "above" the rest of her social circle let alone those that "serve" her. So either all students at the school are princesses and princes or none are because they are all social equals. Their opinions have stuck with me for the last 20 years. The only person who was allowed to refer to our daughter as a princess was her grandfather and the joke was that she had a kingdom of 1, him.

"I been telling her how her suit is going to make her look sophisticated and classy, and she will have to act the part. Crying and sulking isn't either of those. If she still wants to keep up her "princess" thing, I said we can get a crown or a star shaped shaped brooch and we can pin it on her jacket lapel! Not obvious, but just enough to make her feel special. She can get a new little purse and kitten heels to go with the outfit too. I really want to make this a "grown up" ordeal for her.

So while it is not my place to tell you how to raise your daughter, your comment about perpetuating the princess thing surfaced the memories. I wish I still had some of the info they passed on, but I did a quick search and found a couple of articles that may give you a different perspective. No one's feelings will be hurt if you ignore this post.

https://www.npr.org/2011/02/05/133471639/saving-our-daughters-from-an-army-of-princesses
Item 4 here https://www.forbes.com/sites/learnvest/2012/06/28/7-ways-youre-hurting-your-daughters-future/#1e4e8a2b4462
https://www.yourtango.com/2015278551/moms-for-the-love-of-god-stop-calling-your-kid-a-princess

Raising a daughter in the 90's & 00's was hard enough with the just beginning stages of social media and the "look at me" culture. I don't envy you.

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