Author Topic: Honorary Flower Girl - Sorta?  (Read 4862 times)

SparklingIce

Re: Honorary Flower Girl - Sorta?
« Reply #45 on: August 08, 2020, 11:06:25 pm »
Life happens, friends. Again, sorry for not being very active. These message boards are not my thing but I am reading it all. It's not very pleasant at times, but it's alot to think about.

I'll confess that the "it's not so fun" thought process is my own game I made up when I had my own annoyances with those with good fortune. Now this wasn't with everyone who had good things, just the ones that nagged me me in the wrong way. - "The Victoria's Secret model probably has an eating disorder anyway!" - "Ugh, I hate giant spiders and monster lizards, I can easily live without a vacation in Autralia." (But honestly, I DO want to go there) Basically, I come up with reasons to make that thing/place/situation less attractive and not worth being jealous of.

That's all I want for Bri to understand, it's not worth being jealous of!

But I guess that's not the best route to go and will be readjusted to the next time she get testy with another child. Thank goodness this hasn't happened as of late.
I really do want her to enjoy the talents of other children, the same way she would want other kids to watch her when she performs.

That being said, I still haven't been able to bring myself to contact the family about any children in the wedding party. The more I think on it, it is not my place to poke my nose in. This is only the second wedding she's been to and I truly want it to be fun for her if she is willing. We did attempt to make her come out and dance on the dance floor the last time, but she just didn't budge. Simply just LOOKING at the flower girls distressed her, she spent all her time hiding under the table. We left after cake and first dance, she hid her face in her daddy's shoulder as her carried her out. It was not the best experience for her, much less us. I'm hoping roughly a year's gap will have made her change a bit and really been playing up being a 7 year old little lady and not a cry baby 6 year old like last time. We still been on hold with ordering her her little suit and are looking at other dress up options, just in case of a growth spurt between now and the wedding. The idea of dressing up is making her excited since I started letting her play an active part in putting together her outfit for it. Maybe that was all we needed to do in the first place.

Sadly no dance comps or pagents are happening at the moment for our reigion, and we don't really feel all that safe doing them right now. But we DO love doing these very much and she has amazing confidence putting on makeup and fancy costumes. She really shines and enjoys being a part of such an activity. She's never even won a major title in either but she is thrilled none the less just to be a part of it.
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