No, if she wanted to insult her, the bride would have addressed it to husband first and last name and guest.
Back when I wrote the wedding etiquette column, I had a colleague whose partner received an invitation like that from one of his friends--and the colleague and her partner were close to the bride & groom!
When the partner called his friend to ask about why his live-in long-time girlfriend's name was not on the invitation, and to say that he was offended and upset about it, the groom said their wedding planner or stationery person had been ADAMANT that unmarried people's names were to be treated this way.
I made a column out of it. Basically saying, "if you're the bride/groom, don't do this. But if you get something like this, try to cut them some slack--B&G's get a lot of people confidently insisting they do completely inconsiderate things."
I think Miss Manners had a column on this, answering the question "Is it correct to send an invitation to an unmarried couple (e.g.) as 'John Doe and Guest'?"
Her answer was "Yes, if her name is Guest, although the form should be 'Mr John Doe and Ms Jane Guest.' If it's not her name, find out what it is, and use it."
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