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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #45 on: May 20, 2020, 10:24:17 am »
I just had this thought: If I were the couple, I'd take delivery of those things now, in case the company went out of business from the current upheaval.
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #46 on: May 20, 2020, 10:36:35 am »
Me? Personally? I send a TY note as soon as I receive a gift. No matter what the occasion. That's the way I was raised.

Would that include when you received notification that someone bought the gift for you, even if you had instructed the company to delay delivery?

No, I guess not. I'd send the TY note once the gift was received.

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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #47 on: May 20, 2020, 11:17:01 am »
Me? Personally? I send a TY note as soon as I receive a gift. No matter what the occasion. That's the way I was raised.

Would that include when you received notification that someone bought the gift for you, even if you had instructed the company to delay delivery?

No, I guess not. I'd send the TY note once the gift was received.

Even if delivery were many months after the notification, the delay was at your direction, and the giver does not know when you are to get it?  If so, why?

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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #48 on: May 21, 2020, 12:07:41 pm »
Me? Personally? I send a TY note as soon as I receive a gift. No matter what the occasion. That's the way I was raised.

Would that include when you received notification that someone bought the gift for you, even if you had instructed the company to delay delivery?

No, I guess not. I'd send the TY note once the gift was received.

Even if delivery were many months after the notification, the delay was at your direction, and the giver does not know when you are to get it?  If so, why?

Okay, I'm changing my answer above because I didn't read your question correctly. If I instructed the gift to be delivered at a later time, I would send the TYnote when I received notice of said gift. The gifter paid for the item, I was notified and the onus is still on me to thank them for the gift in a timely manner.
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #49 on: June 14, 2020, 01:55:23 pm »
Update:

I received an email from my cousin, the bride, that they got married in the groom's parents' back yard a few days ago, with just his parents and the officiant, with the bride's parents participating by Zoom (they live many states away) and even having the same meal.  They said they are looking forward to having a first anniversary party next June at the venue they'd planned for the wedding.  She included a few pictures, and she looked gorgeous in her gown under a beautiful chuppah. 

I'm glad that's what they decided.  I know that they are disappointed that they couldn't have the wedding they'd planned, and I doubt that as many people will come for the first anniversary as would have come for the wedding, particularly because the venue is so complicated, inconvenient, and expensive. 

It's not important, and it would've been fine if they had waited another year for a wedding, but I think it is nice this way.  It sort of underscores that becoming married was more important to them than the wedding plans. 

Oh, and ... still no thank you note.  :-)

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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #50 on: June 14, 2020, 02:04:38 pm »
I think your post is very nice and deserves a "like" tag, but I also think there's a sense of humor there that deserves a "funny" tag.  Since we can't do both, I'll just tell you here.   :-\
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #51 on: June 16, 2020, 11:06:26 am »
I think your post is very nice and deserves a "like" tag, but I also think there's a sense of humor there that deserves a "funny" tag.  Since we can't do both, I'll just tell you here.   :-\

Agreed, but for me with a side order of "sad" tag, because I really do think Thank You letters matter.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that Gellchom is soon able to post: "what a lovely note I received, thanking us for the wedding present"...
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #52 on: June 17, 2020, 04:38:20 pm »
I hope so, too, just because I love this cousin and want her and her husband to be polite. 

By now, maybe they have forgotten all about thank you notes for gifts received months ago.  Another reason to write them promptly.

They may be getting a reminder, in my case, though: I just mailed them a gift from my kids today.  Count all the violations: Mom sending gift from adult children (although I didn't pay for the gift, just the pricey postage), and the gift was a re-gift.  It was a nice gift that my son and his ex-wife received for their wedding 9 years ago but never even unpacked -- it's been in our house, and turned up when we were emptying out his old room as we prepare to move.  At least it wasn't used or from someone this bride and groom know!  Mea culpa.  But it just seemed like a practical thing to do with it.  Good chance put all the family's names on the card with my gift, too; I really don't remember.  So this is a bonus gift anyway.
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #53 on: June 25, 2020, 04:23:35 pm »
I am happy to report that we received a very nice thank you note from the couple today, sent from their honeymoon -- which is consisting of carefully road-tripping across the country to visit her parents, a route that luckily includes great parks.

I still have no idea when their gift was/will be shipped to them -- and I couldn't care less.  :-)
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Re: When should you write the thank you note?
« Reply #54 on: July 15, 2020, 05:59:46 am »
I am happy to report that we received a very nice thank you note from the couple today, sent from their honeymoon -- which is consisting of carefully road-tripping across the country to visit her parents, a route that luckily includes great parks.

I still have no idea when their gift was/will be shipped to them -- and I couldn't care less.  :-)

That's such good news; I'm so pleased they sent one.
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