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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #15 on: September 23, 2019, 02:50:27 pm »
The best man at my wedding had the show play “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.” I’ve never forgotten it, been married 28 years...

I would have taken this as the best man not having found what he was looking for, if anything, or that he just liked the song. I wouldn't have taken this as a slight against you at all!

I was at a wedding this past weekend which was decidedly anti-religious of any sort. The officiant and the bride and the groom each stated during the ceremony that they intended to rush through the ceremony so they could go get drunk. It was off-putting to a lot of people, but apparently exactly the vibe they wished to convey!

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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #16 on: September 24, 2019, 11:32:35 am »
When it comes to working out how long marriages will last, I always think of a famous British TV presenter, Bruce Forsyth.  He married Wilnelia Merced who was over 20 years his junior (if not 30) in 1983 and everyone expected them to split within 5 years*.  Instead they were still happily together when he died in 2017 (and there was never any suggestion either of them cheated either).  It just goes to show you can’t tell which relationships will succeed from the outside.

*She was a young and extremely beautiful ex-Miss World, he was rich, famous, substantially older and not traditionally good looking plus it was his third marriage.  Conclusions were jumped to.

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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #17 on: September 24, 2019, 11:46:15 am »
^^^ This reminds me of Erica Girardi aka Erica Jayne who stars in Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. She married the much older lawyer depicted in Erin Brokovitch. They appear to have a solid marriage with mutual respect. She gets to pursue her dreams as a pop star in her mid-40s and he gets to enjoy having a vibrant and outspokenly smart spouse. From what I can see they both genuinely love each other for who they are (and who they are not). Not a marriage I would want, but it’s not my marriage!

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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #18 on: September 24, 2019, 12:59:13 pm »
The best man at my wedding had the show play “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.” I’ve never forgotten it, been married 28 years...

I would have taken this as the best man not having found what he was looking for, if anything, or that he just liked the song. I wouldn't have taken this as a slight against you at all!


I could see it being a fun song to play during the bouquet toss or the garter toss (if you had those).
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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #19 on: September 25, 2019, 03:23:37 pm »
The best man at my wedding had the show play “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.” I’ve never forgotten it, been married 28 years...

I would have taken this as the best man not having found what he was looking for, if anything, or that he just liked the song. I wouldn't have taken this as a slight against you at all!

I was at a wedding this past weekend which was decidedly anti-religious of any sort. The officiant and the bride and the groom each stated during the ceremony that they intended to rush through the ceremony so they could go get drunk. It was off-putting to a lot of people, but apparently exactly the vibe they wished to convey!
I think that you're in the U.S., so it makes me wonder why they didn't just have a courthouse ceremony when it was convenient, and then a party afterward.

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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #20 on: September 25, 2019, 04:52:49 pm »
The best man at my wedding had the show play “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.” I’ve never forgotten it, been married 28 years...

I would have taken this as the best man not having found what he was looking for, if anything, or that he just liked the song. I wouldn't have taken this as a slight against you at all!

I was at a wedding this past weekend which was decidedly anti-religious of any sort. The officiant and the bride and the groom each stated during the ceremony that they intended to rush through the ceremony so they could go get drunk. It was off-putting to a lot of people, but apparently exactly the vibe they wished to convey!
I think that you're in the U.S., so it makes me wonder why they didn't just have a courthouse ceremony when it was convenient, and then a party afterward.

I very much got the sense that the wedding and speeches were exactly what the couple wanted (despite knowing the bride’s mom was not pleased). I think they wanted the ceremony and to be viewed as “cool like that” that their internet endorsed officiant was in on the “let’s party!!!!!” vibe. The vows included, “I promise to not watch the next episode on Netflix without you,” and “I promise to buy you Chipotle when you get hangry.” It didn’t come across as serious at all to me, and I got the sense that is exactly what they intended to convey. Not that their marriage isn’t a big deal to them, but that they are just so cool that they were going to buck any tradition while also having a Big White Wedding.

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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
« Reply #21 on: September 26, 2019, 01:36:34 pm »
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The best man at my wedding had the show play “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.” I’ve never forgotten it, been married 28 years...

I would have taken this as the best man not having found what he was looking for, if anything, or that he just liked the song. I wouldn't have taken this as a slight against you at all!

I was at a wedding this past weekend which was decidedly anti-religious of any sort. The officiant and the bride and the groom each stated during the ceremony that they intended to rush through the ceremony so they could go get drunk. It was off-putting to a lot of people, but apparently exactly the vibe they wished to convey!
I think that you're in the U.S., so it makes me wonder why they didn't just have a courthouse ceremony when it was convenient, and then a party afterward.

I very much got the sense that the wedding and speeches were exactly what the couple wanted (despite knowing the bride’s mom was not pleased). I think they wanted the ceremony and to be viewed as “cool like that” that their internet endorsed officiant was in on the “let’s party!!!!!” vibe. The vows included, “I promise to not watch the next episode on Netflix without you,” and “I promise to buy you Chipotle when you get hangry.” It didn’t come across as serious at all to me, and I got the sense that is exactly what they intended to convey. Not that their marriage isn’t a big deal to them, but that they are just so cool that they were going to buck any tradition while also having a Big White Wedding.

Young people. Hopefully they'll take their marriage seriously and none of this will matter in the long run. I could see them 25 years from now complaining about their own children's choices.