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Family and Children / Re: Emotional Labor
« on: November 08, 2025, 07:11:53 am »
Absolutely not. 

But it sounds like you do a lot for him so he expects you to do more for him.  If he made the arrangements with his nephew, it would be a good step in learning how to be an adult. 

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Pets / Re: Meet Merlin!
« on: November 07, 2025, 05:58:09 am »
Adorable.  I love chocolate!!!!

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« on: October 28, 2025, 06:18:25 am »
Quote from: lowspark on October 27, 2025, 01:06:13 pm
To be honest, the purpose of those games is mostly to entertain the guests DURING the event. Who wins is usually much less important.

So yeah, ideally, the gifts get spread out a bit. It's just more fun that way for everyone, not just the winners.
It might leave a bad taste in my mouth if I saw all the prizes going to the same people, particularly relatives of the guest-of-honor.

As long as you don't make your actions public, I vote OK.

Perfect.

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« on: October 26, 2025, 07:29:05 am »
Quote from: jpcher on October 25, 2025, 02:32:15 pm
Aunt did not know that she had the closest guess. I'm not sure what she would have done if told or asked if the prize be awarded to the next closest guess. She is rather competitive . . . for the Memory Game, she was one item off. She asked to see her list and compare it to the master list just to see what she missed.

If she did receive a second prize? She would have gloated.



Given the above, I don't think you were wrong at all. 

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« on: October 25, 2025, 08:00:03 am »
"YOU" didn't fudge the winner of the clothespin game.  The players did. 

In regards to the "Guess how many" game, I think my opinion would be influenced by a variety of factors mostly dependent on aunt's personality.

Did aunt know she actually won, but graciously conceded due to already having won?  Not wrong
Would aunt have pitched a fit knowing she won but didn't get a prize?  Still not wrong

There are other considerations where I might think you were wrong, but overall I think it was nice of you to do.

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Weddings / Re: Why lie?
« on: October 22, 2025, 01:25:32 pm »
Quote from: lowspark on October 22, 2025, 10:41:58 am
I'm curious as to how you know about this, assuming that you are not either Sam, Jazz, or one of the other four people in attendance at the ceremony.

If you are not, then the secret's out anyway, right?

If you are, then I'm guessing that you are not comfortable with keeping this secret.
If this IS the case, I'm not sure how obligated you are to comply, but on the other hand, I'm not sure what good would come if you didn't.



One of the sisters that was in attendance is my granddaughter-in-law.  I don't know why she told us (her DH's family), but we know both Sam and Jazz to varying extents as Jazz lived with sis while my grandson was deployed and Sam eventually moved in, too.  I"ve spent time with them all, including a week where everyone was ill and they needed help with the kids (my great-grandchildren).

I guess the secret IS out.  I don't know who all might know, but someone in Sam's family asked a question about it, and she lied to them. 

I am completely comfortable keeping the secret because it doesn't matter one way or another to me and I get it with the military aspect.  I know that revealing the truth would cause upheaval and hard feelings and, as an in-law, I wouldn't want to do that.

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Weddings / Why lie?
« on: October 21, 2025, 03:08:58 pm »
Here's the story:  Sam is an enlisted person in the US military.  Jazz is a civilian.  They met and fell in love and were married in a very small (only her father, father's SO and two of her sisters were in attendance.) ceremony.  The weekend was celebrated and posted to social media as an engagement.  They got married specifically to make sure she is included in the future of his military career, mostly by being included in his transfer orders (so the military will pay for moving her stuff and other benefits)

They are actively lying about their marital status to some family because they "want to have the Big White Wedding" later.  I'm not sure I see the point of lying about it.  They could still do the fake wedding and have the reception.   

Right?  What am I missing?

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Life in General / Re: Your house smells like cat pee
« on: July 28, 2025, 02:34:27 pm »
Living in an environment with strong urine odors can be very harmful to a person's health.  Urine odor is caused by the ammonia in urine and can be toxic to the lungs (of humans and other animals) and particular dangerous to people with asthma and/or allergies.  Additionally, if the urine is left untreated, it will promote the growth of harmful bacteria. 

This is not a cleanliness issue, it is a health issue and should be addressed as such.

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Family and Children / Re: Always late - when is it OK to proceed alone?
« on: July 23, 2025, 05:54:46 am »
Quote from: lowspark on July 22, 2025, 11:29:12 am


People who are chronically late are essentially saying that their time is worth more than anyone else's.
Additionally, those people inevitably CAN be on time when it really matters -- to them.


I agree with the above. 

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Food / Re: What pairs well with Dill . . .
« on: July 01, 2025, 07:40:56 am »
My grandmother used dill quite a bit in her cooking.  One of the family favorites was Creamed Potatoes or Creamed Potatoes and Peas. 
It is basically a white sauce, onions and dill added to boiled potatoes after they are cooked and drained. 
My son-in-law extended the idea by adding dill to his Creamed Leeks.

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Graduation party
« on: May 17, 2025, 05:22:24 pm »
Maybe this is a situation of "know your audience".  It may be the norm for this group to celebrate this way.

Aside from that, I think it is gauche.  Even giving the most grace I can summon, it's lazy hosting. 

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Pets / Re: Has anyone any ideas about this? Horrible update
« on: April 25, 2025, 06:03:15 am »
A pet's animal companions often struggle after the loss of the other.  ODD recently euthanized one of their dogs but took the older one with them to the appointment.  We think that minimized his unease once they returned to the house.  I don't know if that would work the same with cats, but it may be something to look into. 

(((((hugs)))))

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Life in General / Re: Edamame warning?
« on: March 04, 2025, 06:53:19 am »
I don't think you should say anything.  People learn quickly enough by observing.  If they've decided they don't like it and will not eat more?  That's just more for me!!

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The Work Day / Re: Year-end review question . . . follow-up on "My Promotion" thread. UPDATE #8, #12, #13, Sad #18
« on: February 21, 2025, 04:10:24 pm »
I agree with lowspark. 

Even *IF* the layoffs were strictly for money saving purposes, it IS NOT because you got a raise/bonus. 

Unless, of course, your raise/bonus was equal to those 6 annual earnings.  (read sarcasm)

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Guests bringing home leftovers . . .
« on: January 11, 2025, 07:56:04 am »
I'm going to give jpcher a huge pass on the possibility of using the leftovers from any plate to make stock. 

Homemade basics are becoming a lost art.  And frankly when something is cooked for as long as it takes to make stock, I would be absolutely certain that any and all germs and/or ick has been cooked out of it. 

But, then again, I was first generation born off the farm, where one wasted as little as possible simply because it was the smart thing to do.  It was also the practical thing to do in feeding your family. 

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