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Life in General / Re: Can I go ahead of you please? I only have a few items.
« Last post by Rose Red on January 16, 2026, 10:04:59 am »
I've never asked but had people offer for me to go ahead. I also do the same if I notice someone behind me who only have a few items.

I haven't done it lately though because like you said, there's usually self-checkouts and the wait is usually not too long. Also, I've witnessed customers who only have 1-3 items take longer than a customer with a cart full of stuff (price check, trouble paying, slow cashier, etc.)
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Life in General / Re: Can I go ahead of you please? I only have a few items.
« Last post by Rho on January 15, 2026, 09:21:12 pm »
If asked I would say I am short on time.  If I notice someone has 1-2 items or I know I will be slow, I motion them ahead of me.  Today someone behind me had 2 items and started to open his mouth, saw I had 3 items, and closed his mouth.
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Life in General / Re: Can I go ahead of you please? I only have a few items.
« Last post by EmmaJ on January 15, 2026, 05:46:30 pm »
I’ve never been asked, but would absolutely allow them to go ahead. I tend to have a full cart (impulse buying!) and if i notice the person behind me has only a few items I offer to switch places with them. Since I’ve retired I’m rarely in a rush to go anywhere.
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Life in General / Can I go ahead of you please? I only have a few items.
« Last post by lowspark on January 15, 2026, 04:04:25 pm »
Is this still a valid request?

I do not ever ask this anymore. With Express "15 items or fewer" type lanes and self-checkout, it seems to me that there are plenty of lanes for those with just a few items.

To clarify, I don't often buy a cartload of groceries anymore nowadays. It's just me and I usually only need a few things. So it would be ME asking, not someone asking me. And I really haven't in years now.

So I'm just curious. When was the last time you asked? When was the last time you had someone ask you?
What's your opinion of whether this is still ok?
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Gaming / Re: Dragon Cave
« Last post by Asharah on December 24, 2025, 11:25:50 pm »
HOLIDAY DRAGONS!!!!! 
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by jpcher on December 11, 2025, 02:27:34 pm »
Quote from: vintagegal on December 11, 2025, 06:54:50 am
oh, the same thing happened last year. I can't remember if I said anything to the older lady or not, probably not. The older lady has a summer backyard BBQ for the community every year, I do go to that.

Thanks for posting the bold. I thought I vaguely remembered something very similar in an older post. I had to look at the date to make sure I was reading a new post.

Were there any aftereffects from you not attending last year?

If not, I wouldn't worry about it. I agree that a secondhand invite is not valid.


I like lowspark's response.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by lowspark on December 11, 2025, 07:50:49 am »
I would not sign up unless the actual host invited me.

You did not say, and I'm guessing you have no way of knowing, if EVERYONE on the cul de sac except you was invited.
I mean, did the host deliberately exclude you? Or was it just that she invited a few neighbors over and you just didn't happen to be one of them.

Since you don't want to go, I'd just let it lie and not do anything about it. If the neighbor who mentioned it to you brings it up again, just say that unfortunately, you are unable to go. No further detail is necessary.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by vintagegal on December 11, 2025, 06:54:50 am »
oh, the same thing happened last year. I can't remember if I said anything to the older lady or not, probably not. The older lady has a summer backyard BBQ for the community every year, I do go to that.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by Aleko on December 11, 2025, 02:55:52 am »
I’m with you. You only know this lady to say hello to, and just signing up to her party without a direct invitation does feel like overstepping.

I suggest you say so to the older lady, and ask her to relay this to the hostess. Even if they themselves wouldn’t feel hesitant in your place, they should understand and the hostess - if she did mean to include you - should make contact. That will mean, of course, that you’ll be pretty much obligated to turn up! But, although it’s totally understandable for you to be avoiding spreader events, as the newbie in the community it’s probably not a good move to avoid the first holiday party you get invited to: it’s very easy to give the impression that ‘oh, vintagegal’s not sociable’.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by vintagegal on December 10, 2025, 03:46:54 pm »
I live on a circle or cul de sac with about 20 homes. I am the only renter, everyone else owns their unit. There is an email list of everyone's name, unit, phone, email, and emergency contacts. Everyone has this.
  I know almost everyone to say hi to, some more than others. One is having a holiday party. I don't know her well, only said hi a few times. Another older lady, who I do know better, told me about a holiday party that the first one is having, a potluck, and there is a sign up sheet by her door. Only problem, I was not invited. Doesn't bother me in the least, (I'm still avoiding spreader events) but I'm sure the older lady considers what she said, to be an invitation. 
  I personally would rather chop off a joint of my little finger than show up to a party where I wasn't invited by the host. I don't consider a second-hand invite to be valid. How about you?
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