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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by gellchom on December 05, 2025, 11:33:55 am »
I'd do the same as you did.

What I hate about salad bars is being behind someone who chooses every morsel with exquisite care, like they they are creating a work of art and entering it into a contest.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by lowspark on December 02, 2025, 09:56:06 am »
Generally, I think you were ok. I like the idea of using a carrot stick or other food item as the tasting utensil instead of your finger.
What bothers me the most about this story is that the restaurant didn't bother to label their dressings.
Really, each item should have a clear label - but that's probably asking too much! :)

I am another one who avoids buffets.
I quit going to them years ago because I always overeat.
Salad bars are a sort of middle ground there, since most of it is good-for-you veggies, but inevitably they have a bunch of not-so-great-for-you options on there as well.

I think that covid made me shy away from them even more... but it seems that they are pretty much as available and popular now as they were pre-2020.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by Rose Red on November 30, 2025, 12:15:21 pm »
I think the only thing I would do different is use a carrot stick (or toothpick or something similar) instead of my finger to taste the dressing. I know you didn't use the hand that touch the ladle but people can still be weird about seeing others lick their fingers at a buffet.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by vintagegal on November 30, 2025, 07:35:07 am »
most of the salad bars I have seen, have the dressing name printed right on the ladle. But I'm with Rho, the older I get, the less I am interested in communal feeding situations. Buffets, potluck, etc.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by Rho on November 29, 2025, 09:33:57 pm »
Sounds perfect.  I will never use communal salad dressing after shadowfoxs experience.  Ya gotta wonder about someone who licks a communal ladle.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by shadowfox79 on November 29, 2025, 08:11:47 am »
Considering I saw someone licking the ladle once (ugh) I think what you did was fine, in the absence of labels.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by Lula on November 29, 2025, 07:11:44 am »
Sounds perfectly normal, reasonable and courteous to me.  I've probably done something similar at some point.
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Life in General / Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by jpcher on November 28, 2025, 02:45:55 pm »
Recently, I ordered the salad bar from a restaurant. At the end, there was a selection of six different dressings. None of them were labeled!* One looked like a vinegar/oil infusion with spices. The second looked almost the same, but darker and thicker (maybe a balsamic dressing?) The third was clearly 1,000 island. Then there were three creamy white dressings, all looking quite similar, but I think I knew which one was Ranch. I figured the other two were Bleu cheese or Creamy Garlic.

I took a quick look around, trying to flag down a staffer, saw no one and there was a short line forming behind me. I most definitely did not want to cover my beautiful salad with yucky Bleu cheese, but thought Creamy Garlic would be nice.

I took a small dab out of one bowl of the dressing with the serving ladle, put it on my plate, returned the ladle to the bowl, switched my plate to the hand I used with the ladle, took a finger from my other hand, dipped it into the small dab and tasted it. Definitely Bleu cheese (yuk!). Did the same with the next dressing, switching my plate to the other hand (the one I used to taste). Used my non-dipped/non-tasting hand to put a small dab of dressing on my plate. Changed hands/plate to dip a finger and taste.

At no time did my finger tasting hand touch the ladle or dressing in any way. Is this an acceptable way to decide which dressing you would enjoy at a salad bar? To be honest, I looked at the vinegarette dressings and thought they might be an interesting choice but had no clue as to how they tasted.

What would you do?





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Family and Children / Re: Emotional Labor
« Last post by lowspark on November 10, 2025, 12:53:53 pm »
It depends.

I'm usually ok with doing this kind of task mainly because I want to have a say in what gets decided. So if I were to leave it up to others and they decided to meet at a restaurant I wasn't wild about, at a time which wasn't my preference, well, I'd have to suck it up and go along.

But if I make the plans, I can make sure that we're going to a place I'm ok with, at a time that works, etc.

On the other hand, I probably wouldn't be too thrilled about renewing fishing permits. Presumably, he's the one who fishes, he's the one who won't be able to fish if he doesn't renew, so he's the one who should mess with that.

Now... that's all said without knowing more. There may be an explicit or implicit division of labor where he does some things for me that really only benefit me, and I do the same for him in return. Or it may be a situation where one person is always saddled with what I call "secretarial duties", which both of these tasks fall into in my book.

So yeah... it depends. But most likely, this is the exact kind of task I'd rather do. :)

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Family and Children / Re: Emotional Labor
« Last post by Aleko on November 09, 2025, 04:31:10 am »
YMMV, but I would class practical household management as ‘administrative labour’. ‘Emotional labour’, to me, means stuff like remembering birthdays, phoning elderly aunts regularly, sorting out misunderstandings between family members, making sure nobody feels left out at gatherings, etc. It’s true that it’s highly likely that the person saddled with one kind tends to end up doing the other as well, but not always. Even in households where both partners take an equal share of administrative labour, the emotional labour tends to land mainly on one person’s shoulders.
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