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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by lowspark on December 11, 2025, 07:50:49 am »
I would not sign up unless the actual host invited me.

You did not say, and I'm guessing you have no way of knowing, if EVERYONE on the cul de sac except you was invited.
I mean, did the host deliberately exclude you? Or was it just that she invited a few neighbors over and you just didn't happen to be one of them.

Since you don't want to go, I'd just let it lie and not do anything about it. If the neighbor who mentioned it to you brings it up again, just say that unfortunately, you are unable to go. No further detail is necessary.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by vintagegal on December 11, 2025, 06:54:50 am »
oh, the same thing happened last year. I can't remember if I said anything to the older lady or not, probably not. The older lady has a summer backyard BBQ for the community every year, I do go to that.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by Aleko on December 11, 2025, 02:55:52 am »
I’m with you. You only know this lady to say hello to, and just signing up to her party without a direct invitation does feel like overstepping.

I suggest you say so to the older lady, and ask her to relay this to the hostess. Even if they themselves wouldn’t feel hesitant in your place, they should understand and the hostess - if she did mean to include you - should make contact. That will mean, of course, that you’ll be pretty much obligated to turn up! But, although it’s totally understandable for you to be avoiding spreader events, as the newbie in the community it’s probably not a good move to avoid the first holiday party you get invited to: it’s very easy to give the impression that ‘oh, vintagegal’s not sociable’.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / what would you do? (not invited)
« Last post by vintagegal on December 10, 2025, 03:46:54 pm »
I live on a circle or cul de sac with about 20 homes. I am the only renter, everyone else owns their unit. There is an email list of everyone's name, unit, phone, email, and emergency contacts. Everyone has this.
  I know almost everyone to say hi to, some more than others. One is having a holiday party. I don't know her well, only said hi a few times. Another older lady, who I do know better, told me about a holiday party that the first one is having, a potluck, and there is a sign up sheet by her door. Only problem, I was not invited. Doesn't bother me in the least, (I'm still avoiding spreader events) but I'm sure the older lady considers what she said, to be an invitation. 
  I personally would rather chop off a joint of my little finger than show up to a party where I wasn't invited by the host. I don't consider a second-hand invite to be valid. How about you?
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by gellchom on December 05, 2025, 11:33:55 am »
I'd do the same as you did.

What I hate about salad bars is being behind someone who chooses every morsel with exquisite care, like they they are creating a work of art and entering it into a contest.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by lowspark on December 02, 2025, 09:56:06 am »
Generally, I think you were ok. I like the idea of using a carrot stick or other food item as the tasting utensil instead of your finger.
What bothers me the most about this story is that the restaurant didn't bother to label their dressings.
Really, each item should have a clear label - but that's probably asking too much! :)

I am another one who avoids buffets.
I quit going to them years ago because I always overeat.
Salad bars are a sort of middle ground there, since most of it is good-for-you veggies, but inevitably they have a bunch of not-so-great-for-you options on there as well.

I think that covid made me shy away from them even more... but it seems that they are pretty much as available and popular now as they were pre-2020.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by Rose Red on November 30, 2025, 12:15:21 pm »
I think the only thing I would do different is use a carrot stick (or toothpick or something similar) instead of my finger to taste the dressing. I know you didn't use the hand that touch the ladle but people can still be weird about seeing others lick their fingers at a buffet.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by vintagegal on November 30, 2025, 07:35:07 am »
most of the salad bars I have seen, have the dressing name printed right on the ladle. But I'm with Rho, the older I get, the less I am interested in communal feeding situations. Buffets, potluck, etc.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by Rho on November 29, 2025, 09:33:57 pm »
Sounds perfect.  I will never use communal salad dressing after shadowfoxs experience.  Ya gotta wonder about someone who licks a communal ladle.
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Life in General / Re: Salad Bar Etiquette
« Last post by shadowfox79 on November 29, 2025, 08:11:47 am »
Considering I saw someone licking the ladle once (ugh) I think what you did was fine, in the absence of labels.
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