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Gaming / Re: Dragon Cave
« Last post by Asharah on October 30, 2025, 11:08:23 pm »HALLOWEEN EGGS!!!!!!
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by oogyda on October 28, 2025, 06:18:25 am »To be honest, the purpose of those games is mostly to entertain the guests DURING the event. Who wins is usually much less important.
So yeah, ideally, the gifts get spread out a bit. It's just more fun that way for everyone, not just the winners.
It might leave a bad taste in my mouth if I saw all the prizes going to the same people, particularly relatives of the guest-of-honor.
As long as you don't make your actions public, I vote OK.
Perfect.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by Rose Red on October 27, 2025, 01:44:19 pm »My workplace plays bingo sometimes and games at the yearly picnic. Once you win a prize, you can keep playing for bragging rights but you can't claim a second prize. It's more fun this way and nobody feels bad.
Maybe make that a rule for the next similar event.
Maybe make that a rule for the next similar event.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by lowspark on October 27, 2025, 01:06:13 pm »To be honest, the purpose of those games is mostly to entertain the guests DURING the event. Who wins is usually much less important.
So yeah, ideally, the gifts get spread out a bit. It's just more fun that way for everyone, not just the winners.
It might leave a bad taste in my mouth if I saw all the prizes going to the same people, particularly relatives of the guest-of-honor.
As long as you don't make your actions public, I vote OK.
So yeah, ideally, the gifts get spread out a bit. It's just more fun that way for everyone, not just the winners.
It might leave a bad taste in my mouth if I saw all the prizes going to the same people, particularly relatives of the guest-of-honor.
As long as you don't make your actions public, I vote OK.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by oogyda on October 26, 2025, 07:29:05 am »Aunt did not know that she had the closest guess. I'm not sure what she would have done if told or asked if the prize be awarded to the next closest guess. She is rather competitive . . . for the Memory Game, she was one item off. She asked to see her list and compare it to the master list just to see what she missed.
If she did receive a second prize? She would have gloated.
Given the above, I don't think you were wrong at all.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by Rho on October 25, 2025, 09:18:39 pm »You were a good hostess ensuring as many guests as possible left happy that they won something.
I always will remember a gathering with games where one man won three games of chance. At the 2nd win I thought he should have given the prize back for someone else. At the third win his wife publicly scolded him for not returning the prize.
Glad to know the shower was a sucess.
I always will remember a gathering with games where one man won three games of chance. At the 2nd win I thought he should have given the prize back for someone else. At the third win his wife publicly scolded him for not returning the prize.
Glad to know the shower was a sucess.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by jpcher on October 25, 2025, 02:32:15 pm »Aunt did not know that she had the closest guess. I'm not sure what she would have done if told or asked if the prize be awarded to the next closest guess. She is rather competitive . . . for the Memory Game, she was one item off. She asked to see her list and compare it to the master list just to see what she missed.
If she did receive a second prize? She would have gloated.
Good point! Thanks for that validation.
If she did receive a second prize? She would have gloated.
"YOU" didn't fudge the winner of the clothespin game. The players did.
Good point! Thanks for that validation.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by oogyda on October 25, 2025, 08:00:03 am »"YOU" didn't fudge the winner of the clothespin game. The players did.
In regards to the "Guess how many" game, I think my opinion would be influenced by a variety of factors mostly dependent on aunt's personality.
Did aunt know she actually won, but graciously conceded due to already having won? Not wrong
Would aunt have pitched a fit knowing she won but didn't get a prize? Still not wrong
There are other considerations where I might think you were wrong, but overall I think it was nice of you to do.
In regards to the "Guess how many" game, I think my opinion would be influenced by a variety of factors mostly dependent on aunt's personality.
Did aunt know she actually won, but graciously conceded due to already having won? Not wrong
Would aunt have pitched a fit knowing she won but didn't get a prize? Still not wrong
There are other considerations where I might think you were wrong, but overall I think it was nice of you to do.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Baby Shower Planning
« Last post by jpcher on October 24, 2025, 02:28:12 pm »Hi all -- just wanted to let you know how the party went . . . it was awesome!
The party planner at the venue we chose was excellent. She helped me with menu selections, seating/table arrangements, thoughts for games and answered all of my questions in a timely manner.
The guests made comments like "How did you find this place?", "This is an awesome venue!" and oh, so many comments on how delicious the food was.
I do think that having a buffet appetizer table (instead of a sit-down meal) helped in the mingling process of the event.
We had a couple of activities like building blocks that people could decorate (blocks and markers spread across the tables) and "Advice for the new parents" cards. We also had a "Guess how many" jar filled with small pacifiers. All of which people could do whenever during the party.
We planned five games, only played four (including the "Guess how many" game).
I do have an etiquette question following the descriptions, which I'm really curious as to your thoughts.
1 -- Memory Game. Father-to-be wore an apron decorated with baby items. He walked around the room, chatted with guests (he was in his glory) and showed off the items. After he took off the apron, guests were given a form to fill out. The person (or team) with the most correct items on the form won. Niece and her family won.
2 -- Stick the Binky on the Baby's Mouth. Just like Pin the Tail on the donkey. The very first person (Aunt) who played the game got it spot-on. I was surprised to see the line form of lots of other guests who still wanted to play! They all had fun, but Aunt was the clear winner.
3 -- Don't Say Baby. Wear a clothespin. If someone says the word Baby, take their pin. The person who has the most clothespins at the end of the day wins. Niece had a whole lot of clothes pins. (see below)
4 -- Guess How Many. Aunt was the closest. The next closest guess was one away. (see below)
Etiquette Question -- were we wrong to "fudge" the winners?
Judges being me, DD#1, DHsam and DD#2.
For the Don't Say Baby game -- someone noticed that Niece had a lot of clothespins, so they investigated. Turns out that a lot of guests were just giving Niece their clothespins so that she could win (again). That someone got a bunch of other guests to give their pins to a friend so that Niece wouldn't win again. Sigh. Friend won.
For the Guess How Many -- We gave the prize to the second closest guess.
Etiquette question -- Were we wrong for fudging the prize awards? Giving prizes to four guests instead of the actual winners, which would have been two guests receiving two prizes each? Instead of four different winners?
What do you think?
The party planner at the venue we chose was excellent. She helped me with menu selections, seating/table arrangements, thoughts for games and answered all of my questions in a timely manner.
The guests made comments like "How did you find this place?", "This is an awesome venue!" and oh, so many comments on how delicious the food was.
I do think that having a buffet appetizer table (instead of a sit-down meal) helped in the mingling process of the event.
We had a couple of activities like building blocks that people could decorate (blocks and markers spread across the tables) and "Advice for the new parents" cards. We also had a "Guess how many" jar filled with small pacifiers. All of which people could do whenever during the party.
We planned five games, only played four (including the "Guess how many" game).
I do have an etiquette question following the descriptions, which I'm really curious as to your thoughts.
1 -- Memory Game. Father-to-be wore an apron decorated with baby items. He walked around the room, chatted with guests (he was in his glory
) and showed off the items. After he took off the apron, guests were given a form to fill out. The person (or team) with the most correct items on the form won. Niece and her family won.2 -- Stick the Binky on the Baby's Mouth. Just like Pin the Tail on the donkey. The very first person (Aunt) who played the game got it spot-on. I was surprised to see the line form of lots of other guests who still wanted to play! They all had fun, but Aunt was the clear winner.
3 -- Don't Say Baby. Wear a clothespin. If someone says the word Baby, take their pin. The person who has the most clothespins at the end of the day wins. Niece had a whole lot of clothes pins. (see below)
4 -- Guess How Many. Aunt was the closest. The next closest guess was one away. (see below)
Etiquette Question -- were we wrong to "fudge" the winners?
Judges being me, DD#1, DHsam and DD#2.
For the Don't Say Baby game -- someone noticed that Niece had a lot of clothespins, so they investigated. Turns out that a lot of guests were just giving Niece their clothespins so that she could win (again). That someone got a bunch of other guests to give their pins to a friend so that Niece wouldn't win again. Sigh. Friend won.
For the Guess How Many -- We gave the prize to the second closest guess.
Etiquette question -- Were we wrong for fudging the prize awards? Giving prizes to four guests instead of the actual winners, which would have been two guests receiving two prizes each? Instead of four different winners?
What do you think?
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Weddings / Re: Why lie?
« Last post by gellchom on October 23, 2025, 09:02:54 am »I think that plenty of couples who had planned weddings for 2020 and had to postpone them for a couple of years went ahead and got officially married and then had the BWW or whatever they were planning anyway when they could. After all, no one knew how long it would be, and they needed to get on with some important things, sometimes including starting their family. It would seem cruel and unnecessary to declare that they couldn't then still have their wedding with their family and friends, kind of like when same sex couples had to go somewhere for their "legal" wedding.
Everyone is entitled to feel how they do. For me, it comes down whether it is just a matter of separating the legal formalities from the social/family life cycle event, which doesn't bother me at all, secret or not (if anything I'd probably not mention it, especially not something like the city hall visit a few days before or after the BWW I described above) or if it's an attempt to maximize attention or have your cake and eat it too (like having a substantial destination wedding with guests and a BWW at home as well -- even if they call it a reception or something, it still feels to me like wanting it both ways) which feels to me like too much focus on the wedding, not enough focus on the marriage.
Everyone is entitled to feel how they do. For me, it comes down whether it is just a matter of separating the legal formalities from the social/family life cycle event, which doesn't bother me at all, secret or not (if anything I'd probably not mention it, especially not something like the city hall visit a few days before or after the BWW I described above) or if it's an attempt to maximize attention or have your cake and eat it too (like having a substantial destination wedding with guests and a BWW at home as well -- even if they call it a reception or something, it still feels to me like wanting it both ways) which feels to me like too much focus on the wedding, not enough focus on the marriage.