Bad Manners and Brimstone

A lot of people don’t consider a delayed reception as equivalent to a wedding. My guess would be that they are afraid if they openly made known that they had got married with only four witnesses and would have a big white reception later, these people (a) would get in a huff that they hadn’t been invited to the wedding, and (b) would not consider that an invitation just to a reception calls for wedding presents.

The four people who were at their real wedding must be complicit in the fiction they have put out on social media, otherwise the lie would certainly come out and cause major grief. They presumably know the family members concerned and agree that this is a reasonable worry, or they surely wouldn’t be going along with it?

Seconded. She has created an account on a crowd-funding website and let everyone know she wants them all to chip in to the tune of a minimum of $75 each for her delayed honeymoon. When contributions failed to flood in, she let everyone know that she was disappointed by their stinginess. If she’s not capable of working out for herself why she's at risk of losing friends, it’s quite pointless to try to explain to her.

I read this letter to Ask Eric about a couple married a year prior and asking co-workers to donate to a honeymoon fund. It sounds as if gifts were given at the wedding. The first line of the response **** me up... it's what is quoted in the subject line.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/askingeric/s-3885680

NEW EGG!!!!!

Forest & Jungle

When my brother and SIL held a party to introduce their firstborn to their friends, although showers have never been a thing in Britain just about everybody turned up with a soft toy; they had to get a plastic dustbin to put them all in. No child, let alone a month-old baby, can love an entire dustbinful of toys; they won’t even have names for most of them. (I think eventually DH and SIL, having identified the ones he seemed to have any attachment to, at intervals excavated a batch of the ones that were still sitting untouched at the bottom of the bin and took them to a charity shop.)

So I think asking for books with the giver’s name and message is a great idea. That’s something everybody can enjoy giving, it’s personal in a way diapers or toys just aren’t, and a bookcase full of books each of which has been loved by somebody or has inspired them, is a treasure chest.